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writes: Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 3 months. We had a break up early, but we forgave each other and things couldn't have been better. We both agreed this was the greatest times of our lives.However, we just had a fight last night. Reason being is because I am too honest and overprotective. This is my first serious relationship and I am 21. My girlfriend is 20, and this is her first serious relationship in a very long time. Previous, she was beat and cheated on several times. I have never cheated or hit a girl in my life. We are both very cautious of the other but I feel like I am always the one who should be suspicious. She has a tendency to love the fact that other guys stare at her. She also has a tendency to be very easily manipulated by guys. Reason the fight started is because a friend of hers asked her to hang out who I never meet. She and her best friend reassured me that he is gay. Her best friends boyfriend told me that he has never seen him have an interest for girls but he may be bi privately. (you never know). A conversation came about with the four of us, and me and my girlfriend started to nit pick at each others idiosyncrasies. It started innocuous but then it got hurtful. Both our biggest problems have been that we have big mouths. We don't curse at each other but we can both say hurtful things, with out meaning it. She was sleeping over my house and she started bursting out into tears. She called her mother to pick up but she was not answering her phone. Me and my mom tried to reassure her that she is safe. Right now she is still sleeping upstairs and I am awake. If we break up I know it is mainly my fault. I guess I have to learn to trust her. But I know the ways scumbag guys are when they see a damsel in distress. And it would kill me if she cheated on me.She always tell me that true love is free. Yet she is so hypocritical and she constantly tells me things that she regrets and gives me the "im innocent look". She has already lied to me about the amount of guys she has been with and I still wonder if there are more. My question is am I too overprotective for this relationship? If so how can I be less protective? Should I just give her the benefit of the doubt until I find out? How can I be reassured that she is not?
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reader, strongheartes  +, writes (23 November 2011):
first of all she's a female and all girls love the fact that she is liked by guys , it's not that she wants them all , she just like the feeling , and the fact that she lied about how many gauys she had before you , dont you think that she's trying not to make you feel uncomfotable or to make you feel special or not to upset you ... it could be any reason because if you think about it , there's no benefit or any point from liying about such thing ... Now let's be realestic if she's cheating on you truly she wouldn't had cried , she wouldn't had argue or fight with you so try to give her a chance that guy she went with and her friend maybe it's nothing debite knowing that he's gay , anyway if you feel that something is wrong , being overprotecting or watching her always will get you no where , if you truly feel the hints of cheating , keep it low and secretly try to figure it out .. Take her to a speacial place , sit down with her , dont hide things in your heart , tell her all of what you feel , and listen to what she got to say inturn , workout the things that upset you both .. Good luck
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