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age
36-40,
*ali22s22
writes:I met a girl through a mutual friend in NY. She's seems to be everything I want in a girl. We've been dating for ten months now. When we first started dating (for the first couple months), she was a sweet happy girl that truly respected me. When we went out, she would hold my hand, the sex (if I say so myself) was amazing. She would want do anything to please me. We're in a long distance relationship yet through mutual travels, we manage to see each other about once very two months. At the start, she made more of an effort in the relationship than me (traveling for example). Over time this built resentment and then we went through a period where we started fighting and bickering a lot. I truly love and care about her, but wasn't able to always express it (I can be a total klutz sometimes). Now last time I visited her, she had lost a lot of interest in the sex and was not as carefree as she used to be. It seems like I'm now the only one working on the relationship. She told me a month ago she needed time to get over the fighting we had. She hasn't dumped me yet which is surprising. To my error, during the time of constant fighting, I would always apologize profusely and beg her (coming off generally very needy). Now she seems to need a little space to breathe. What should I do? I'm afraid of coming off too needy, but I still want to show her she means a lot to me without looking like a pussy (excuse my French!). As I said we're in a long distance. I know she is still at least somewhat interested considering she hasn't left me yet. She tells me she wishes she could be back to where we were when we were happy at the beginning. Thanks everybody!!! Really appreciate the help, I'm in an unhappy place. -Tony
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 April 2010):
 You need to woo her and chase her and write her romantic thoughts. Rediscover those magical moments when you first met.
Keep away from contentious issues.Respect her opinions and don't argue with her.
Give her more praises and compliments and avoid criticisms or complains about her.
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