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36-40,
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writes: I met this guy last year and instantly we connected. We started off as friends but the more we got to know each other the more our friendship blossomed into a relationship. We wanted the same things out of life, had the same values and morals and seemed to overall be a good fit. We were both extremely happy, we had so much fun when we were together and things were great, but of course nothing is perfect and when problems came up the way we both handled things were pretty wrong. He shut down on me, not wanting to talk as much or hang out and it drove me crazy. It made me push harder forcing convo and practically begging for time and all it led into was constant arguments. Eventually we got to a point where we decided a break was in order, but yet we still kept in contact and the arguments continued so we broke up. But no more than 2-3 days would go by without us missing each other and talking but the problems would come back up. All I wanted was for us to spend time together and talk like we used to but he always had a different excuse which just made me complain. He always managed to make time for friends and talk to other females which would upset me. We now have completely broken up for good and I can't help but wonder if I'm to blame and how do I move on?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 January 2011):
 I dont think you should be putting the blame on anyone, am sure you both made mistakes. You both argued a lot and your personalities obviously clashed. If both people are not willing to be open and honest with each other and work hard on saving a relationship then there is no point to it. It sounds to me like you were both not right for each other. Therefore i think its best for you to forget about trying to save the relationship and move forward with your life. It is hard for a while to adjust to being single again and to get over someone but the best way for you to do it is to delete all his contact details and dont contact him what so ever, if he tried to contact you dont respond. Next step is to go out with friends and socialise maybe start up some new hobbies and enjoy being independant.
Good Luck.
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