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writes:I recently found out that my boyfriend of over a year finds me sexually unappealing. He has never gone out and slept with another woman that I know of but every time we have sex I find out later that he was sexting other women and receiving pics of them just before he had sex with me he says that he loves me and that it means nothing and he does find my attractive.....But I don't belive him am i that unappealing? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2012): I can see why this would make you feel unappealing, but trust me, it has nothing to do with you. Some men are just not able to stay focused on one woman (and some women are not able to stay focused on one man). You could be the most beautiful person in the world, and they would still be interested in others. You just have to avoid these kind of men in the future. Get to know a man really well, be friends with him for awhile before getting into a relationship with him. Also try and meet his friends, get to know the people he hangs out with on a regular basis. They probably have similar personalities, otherwise they wouldn't hang out together. If his friends act like womanizers, there's a good chance he is too. A person can only hide who they really are for so long, and finding out who they hang out with is good way to find out faster if they are a liar or not. Save you some time.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 August 2012):
 It has nothing to do with you being sexually appealing or not, your BF is a cheating douche.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2012): This will always be a problem. Take a break and date other guys...you will feel so much better about yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2012): He receives pictures from other women and sexts them, yet he says he loves you? Not to be harsh, but doesn't that sound plain and simple enough for you to know what to do?
Don't let your "boyfriend" make you feel so insecure. Someone who loves you shouldn't do that; they're supposed to make you feel confident.
If I were you, I would break up with him.
It's very disturbing that he contacts other women before being intimate with you. You deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 August 2012): It has nothing to do with your appearance! if this boyfriend found you sexual unappealing then he wouldn't be having sex with you.
However how can him sexting other women mean nothing? just because he isn't sleeping with them, it's still a form of cheating. You should be good enough for this man but he obvioulsy loves the idea of texting others whislt with you. I really think you're too good for him and need to find someone else that will only want to have some form of a sexual relationship with you. Good luck xx
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