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writes: This boy I really like makes me super wet every time i think about him. I like him for his personality, He is the most sweetest smartest funniest boy I ever met. We are just friend's but I really want to be more than that. But I know that won't happen because I'm ugly. And plus I have been told by other boys and even my friends and my parent's that I'm not so appealing to the eye. My bestie told me that I don't have a chance cause I am ugly??Everyone says I'm hideous on the outside but ehhhh on the inside. Reply to this Question
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (28 June 2017):
 Look around you. How many people do you see who look like models? Not many I will bet. Most people are "normal" looking. Some a little better looking, some less. In any case, beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder so what is appealing to one person may not be for another, and vice versa.
Let your personality shine through and people will gravitate towards you. I know a number of women who are "good looking" but have ugly personalities (selfish and only think about their next pair of shoes, hair do or beauty salon visit). On the other hand, I know numerous people who are "ordinary" looking but are beautiful people. Be a beautiful person. There is little you can do about your looks, apart from making the best of what you have, but you can always be kind and generous, and that will make you beautiful.
Also, take a close look at your "bestie". She should be the one who is trying to build up your confidence, not run you down. Does she have confidence issues herself so makes herself feel better by running YOU down? At your age most young ladies lack confidence in their looks but friends should try to help you through this, not tell you you are ugly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2017): It's sad that your friends and parents say you are ugly. I have never seen anyone that doesn't have one feature (hair, skin, lips, etc) that is nice. That old saying about beauty being in the eye of the beholder is true. Beauty is subjective.
N91 is right when he says give it a try. It's just a fact of life that we all suffer rejection at some time. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2017): You sound like a young lady who has her head on straight so the best advice I can give you about this boy is to ask him straight up how he feels about you. If he says he likes you as a friend then you have your answer and you can move on.
The other issue is how you look. One can only do so much with what God gave you but I know there are ways to improve your overall attractiveness. The first one is to be as fit as possible, next wear clothes that fit you properly and also get a haircut in your case hairstyle that flatters you. You'll have to find a good stylist for the last one but if you can afford it it's worth it.
Best of luck to you.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (27 June 2017):
 Work on the inside. Be kind, volunteer, focus on school, etc.
It is highly unlikely you are "ugly". However, if people say you are an "eh" person on the inside, perhaps you need to improve that for your future.
Also, getting "wet" by thinking of a guy really doesn't mean he's worth dating!
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reader, N91 +, writes (27 June 2017):
 Who knows how he feels about you without asking?
We can't have everyone we want, life is unfair sometimes and it hurts to be rejected. Everyone has been there, but if you don't ask this guy to be more than friends then you'll never have your answer.
If he says no, then he wasn't the right person for you anyways and you need to keep searching.
Take the chance, life is too short not to tell people how you feel.
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