Am I that horrible a person to judge so wrongly?

A female age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I am 18, he is 20. I am 114lbs and 5' 1 1/2" tall, he is 250+ (somewhere around there) 6' 2". Already there are differences. What scares me, what really scares me, is the fact that recently I am pulled between two things I want. To be with him. To be single. He is a great guy. He treats me like a queen, buying me gifts, hugging me, cuddling with me, showing true affection, making me dinners, paying for our dates, always listens. But there are the things I just cannot escape... such as his stomach, his immaturity, his smart-assy side, his vulgarness. These things stand out so much, and lately they've been standing out far more than they should be. We've been dating for 9 months... and for the first 3 everything was great. I don't know what happened after that... but then... I just began to feel differently towards him. Before we had dated we were best friends for awhile, 2 years, and before that we were just friends. I want to go... but I tried once and found myself running back 3 1/2 hours later crying. Now... it's hard to look at his face... or even kiss him. Am I that horrible a person to judge so wrongly? What should I do that will benefit him? Will he be okay if I leave him? Is there any possible way we could be friends still after we split? SHOULD I split?... I'm so lost...

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