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writes:I am a 28 year old male and I have been dating a 24 year old girl for about a month and a half. I am trying to figure out if I am the right kind of guy that this girl needs in her life or if I am setting myself up for heartbreak. I have very strong feelings for her but sometimes I feel that we are too different for things to work out. She is a very outgoing person, likes to stay busy, she has a lot of friends that she seems to hang out with constantly. She always has fun things going on. On the other hand, I am kind of shy, most of my friends live far away (only have a couple that I hang out with once in a while). I like having free time to relax. I like doing interesting activities, I just don't plan fun things regularly and usually my friends or I are too busy to hang out all the time.It is not that the things that she does annoy me. On the contrary, I like those qualities and sometimes wish that I was more like her. When we hang out she is doing most of the talking and I sometimes find myself feeling jealous of her stories and have nothing really to reciprocate. So I just listen and say things like "That's Awesome" or "Sounds fun". The other thing that has been tough is that she lives an hour and a half away. And we are both really busy. So we only get to see each other on weekends.I just don't want her to suddenly figure out that I am this extremely boring person and break things off. I am really starting to like her a lot. How do I keep her interested in me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2010): one thing I personally feel is that if you are in a deep and communicative enough relationship, you should be able to discuss such concerns with the other person... that said, if you're worried about being "too boring" for her, you should just ask her, "Am I too boring for you?" and see her reaction. Personally, if a relationship is a serious one between two mature people, I think a difference like this ought to be a very minor speedbump, so you asking her this question and gauging her reply is also a way for you to tell how emotionally mature she is and how serious she is about this relationship, by how much emphasis she would place on this difference between you two.
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reader, SweetindianGirl +, writes (5 December 2010):
you keep her interested by appreciating her and letting her feel appreciated. you find yourself jealous of her stories because you have NONE to tell, sounds like you have no friends and or hang out unless its with her, seems like you too are busy and into your life, maybe if you tell her stories abotu some imaginary girl who likes you shell stop talkig!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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