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writes:So I'm a 21 year old male in California... recently I've meet a great girl. We can connect on all levels and have a great time talking to each other for hours and hours. The only problem I have is that shes 15... turns 16 in Sept. She may be mature enough for a relationship with someone 6 years older, however, but this isn't a sexual relationship yet and I'd be willing to wait till she became legal to do so. So I'm wondering what others would think and what your thoughts are? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): Relationships with younger guys really don't work. I've dated people up to 3 and a half years younger than me and it REALLY didn't work, not only because of the law but also their immaturity was really annoying and got in the way! I am now with someone only 10 months younger than me and our relationship is really working. I would find someone your own age and let her do the same =]
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reader, ashryanxx  +, writes (15 January 2009):
if she seems right for you then take yer time and things will fall into place. my boyfriend is 19 years older than me. im mature and he is young at heart. we are happy and thats all that matters age is a number. wait til she is 16 and then meet up a few times take things slow and you'll soon know how u feel
best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): I don’t think that you are wrong for feeling this way, you are 21 shes almost 16, you are a man she is a girl, I was 17 when I moved in with man 4 years older, he was my best friend and due to circumstances beyond my control I had no where else to go, so I moved in with him and everyone warned me how bad this is, how it can only mess things up, how I could fall pregnant and then be left with a baby to raise on my own, but today almost 6 years later I am still with the same guy and our relationship is still great, yea we have our ups and downs who doesn’t but we love each other, I think sometimes people miss out on that one true love because of the idea that you cant find or know true love at such a young age, and its bull, if you get that love at a young age and you nurture it, and grow it right, with values and believes you can turn that love into the most beautiful thing you have ever seen.Please just keep your word and wait until she is of legal age, girls at that age think that we can express our love and commitment through sex ( I did to but he said me right) and your role is to tell her that you don’t need that to know what she’s feeling, sex isn’t all in a relationship and young girls sometimes feel like the only thing they have to offer is their bodies, keep her heart safe and teach her right from wrong, and be her best friend, be there for her when she needs you but please allow her to still gain her own independence.Good luck with this and don’t doubt love because of age love can come at any time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2009): Yes you are robbing the cradle! I tell you, she will change in five years. She will change in one year. I really do believe that at ages 13-15 that they should only date a year or two above their age.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (15 January 2009):
 If the parents know you and like you and you are being respectful like you said, then if you can keep it that way for a year or so then thats cool. You seem to get what the deal is. Just tread lightly and I would basically keep it like it is until then. You dont want to go to jail over this.
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