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30-35,
anonymous
writes:i have a problem with my boyfriend recently and i cant just get over it by myself, so im seeking help here. I have noticed my boyfriend keeps checking on another girl's page on a networking website, whcih shows the list of recent visitors. Right after checking my page, my boyfriend tends to check that girl's too. It has been for a while, but recently i feel extremely insecure because of the long-distance thing. i sent email to ask my boyfriend why he always checks that girl's page? usually people wont check your girlfriend's page and then click on another girl's right after that. and im pretty sure that there is no third girl, just her. i know my boyfriend had a crush on her before he met me, and he admits that. i have to say that the girl is such a bitch and my boyfriend also agrees that she likes fooling around even when she is in a relationship. Before my boyfriend started relationship with me, the girl lied to him saying that she was single but actually she was not. at that time, her boyfriend also told my boyfriend to back-off. but recently, they broke up and she is avaliable again. i guess they keep chatting online and she even tells my boyfriend what horrible things she has done on her ex-boyfriend. i guess she just needs attention not just from only one person to prove that she is attractive. my boyfriend also says that he wont consider her as girlfriend because she is not a good girl. but he is really courious about her and find her stories interesting. He says that he has never thought about cheating on me, not even in dreams. he keeps saying that im more pretty, sexy and smart than her. i know he might not find her as girlfriend and he keeps saying that he has no feeling for her now just couriosity. but i just feel horrible insecure because she is such a bitch and her existence is so dangerous. Am i too sensitive since nothing really happens to them so far? Should I be jealous and suspecious? Am i right to remind him not to cross the line? this is the first time that i got into relationship, so im taking it really serious. i just want my boyfriend to stay away from her. im so pissed off by her sharing "secrets" or heart-broken breaking-up things with MY boyfriend. my boyfriend always says that he wanna make me happy. but definitely, his couriosity doesnt make me feel happy instead insecure. PS: im pretty sure she has lots of backups besides my boyfriend. i hate her!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2009): more than stayin away from her, you want your boyfriend to stay with you. And since its a long distance relationship, its not reallly controllable. So honestly, worrying about it will not help cos even considering the most undesrable scenario, you cant do much to stop it. So dont worry, and please dont get jealous of her cos shes not worth it. HOneslty, theres nothing in her to be jealous of. Why bother yourself when nothing seems to be happening right now? you have every right to firmly inform him that he is not to cross the line. and since nothing has happended so far, stop thinking so much about it, whatever is meant to happen will happen, forget about the rest. in know its easier said than done, but thinking is in your hands, no point wasting time considering all possibilities- cos its because of this trait that we tend to get more hurt than men do.
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