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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi all. my husband of 10 years is acting up .2yrs ago I went on went to visit my family and he stayed with our 2 kids. when got back after two months,told me a bad rumur was spreading at his work that he was having an affair with his PA and said was not true. she always addressed him as sir. one nite hE got a sms after 12pm calling him dear saying cud not make it tomorrow. when I asked said didn't know who it was. After bout 30min got phone call from same number and had tell him to answer it. it was PA's boyfriend finding out who t was and PA was shouting in background telling him to stop making the call.now, 5months later I find 2 messages from her deleted but showing on call log. I ask him wen last spoke to her says doesn't know till he sees me holding phone then says she may ave sent sms.then says they were call me, then that he called back then turns and says ave got agenda n shud just fulfill it coz I query him. Mhm, am I over sensitive? Is it nothing? Pls help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2012): HUN, you are NOT over sensitive.
he thought he was so smart by telling u first about so called rumours. very smart indeed. this threw u off track.......until u found the evidence yourself.
do your own research but be aware: your heart is about to be brokern.
OH, AND DONT ever leave home to go to family for 2 MONTHS: WHAT WERE YOU THINKING?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2012): I would be worried. Usually if something looks like a fish, swims like a fish, and smells like a fish, it is a fish. I would talk to him. Do not accept excuses or reasoning. Do not accept his dismissal of your feelings. Simply tell him it has to stop, period. Rumors can be rumors, however the fact that hubby told you first says to me he was trying to head off a looming disaster. By telling you first, he is trying to make himself look like the nice guy. I don't see anything nice about this situation. Talk to him. And go with your gut feeling. Usually, it is right.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 January 2012):
 It is hard to tell, but by reading what you have wrote I would say you have every right to be worried. He is being secretive and hiding things from you, which is never a good sign in a marriage. If he was innocent then he would be honest in my opinion. You are right to be worried. Talk to him and ask him to be honest with you, or take it one step further and talk to the woman in question herself.
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