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writes: During the middle of August I started talking to this guy who was also single, we have now met up around 10 times we do the most random thing like driving around and even once watching the stars, we get on so well and he's been round my house 3 times,I have done oral to him but thats as far as it goes and as we have both said no rush, Hes admitted to me he really likes me, I make him smile and laugh which I though was really nice of him to say, he even mentioned messing around of we ever got married one day lol. Anyway cut long story short I wasn't sure if he wanted a relationship so j asked him over messenger if he could see himself being with me or not he relied he could actually and if u wanted a relationship, Next day I bought up again and he said he was actually thinking about seeing me full time, and if I wanted the same thing. Amd that when we next see each other we will have a proper chat about It , Now I'm kinda worried he doesn't like me in that way due to the fact he said proper talk about it and the fact he also thought about seeing me full time Is this normal for a guy to say this ? Or am I looking to much into the things he has just said Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2020): Wait and see!
Stop trying to foretell the future. Most of the posts we get from people dating, stems form a bad case of overthinking; or people wanting guarantees.
Stop looking too far ahead, and stay in the present. You'll get hyped-up and start rushing things; and that's when he'll freeze. You can gently coax things along when they drag; but once you see movement, you sit-back and let things flow. Woman scare men away trying to get too serious too soon. Don't give-off vibes of desperation. Desperate people are usually insecure, and a major pain in the neck! Play it cool, girlfriend! He's interested enough and proving it. He's not ready to buy a ring, okay?
You are seeing movement. Now take a chill-pill and relax. Don't start planning your wedding and counting kids just yet.
People who don't have patience, don't know how to chill. They get all wound-up! They want every thing to speed along, they get antsy, and scare-off prospects that probably would have stuck around; if they weren't so desperate or anxious.
He said what he said. Now give him a chance to show you what he means. Cool your jets!
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (8 October 2020):
 I think that you are freaking yourself out by overthinking it because rightfully so; it should be a conversation that is had face to face. He seems to be interested in you and a conversation is in order as to how things are going, where they are going and how to proceed. Speak in person and see what he has to say.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (7 October 2020):
 I think you are both just going to have to have this long talk and see what transpires from this.
It does sound positive to me, he said he would like to see you full time. I think it will be good he mentioned to have a proper chat about it, show's he is taking a mature approach.
Don't read to much into things, and just see what unfolds.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 October 2020):
 Well, I suppose you'll °have° to have a proper talk, if whenever you ask him if he wants a relationship, he says " yes if you want the same ".... and you never say yes or not.
You are disappointed because , when you asked him if he can see himself in a relationship with you, he just did not answer a resounding, enthusiastic, unconditional : YES ! Of course !
But the guy is not biting : before, he wants to know if you are exactly on the same page , if you want the same thing, ... and I suppose you 'd have to define what "a full-time relationship" means for each of you and if your intents match.
I think it makes sense.
Also, you just met a few times, maybe he is a prudent type , before committing to a relationship he wants to know you ( and about you ) more.
That would make sense too.
What he said does not sound sinister to me. Maybe you feel it's not flattering because that's not the way in which someone totally smitten and in love with you would reply-
then again, if after 6 weeks and ten dates he is not crazily in love yet,- that's not a strange, unusual thing.
Have that proper talk, and take it from there.
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