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writes:Me and my boyfriend were hanging out today, and everything was going fine until his best friend's g/f told me that he cheated on me with one of my ex-friends, and i heard about it but he told me that he wouldn't do that because friends are completly off-limits. He said that he has to find someone mentally and physically attractive to sleep with them and he didn't find either one in her because she's not that pretty. I'm not saying that i'm hot or anything (i'm not) but besides that, he said that he wouldn't do that because he loves me more than words can explain, ok sweet, but i blew it out of proportion because we had this talk awhile ago, and now i'm thinking that he lied about it. Me and his had an hour long discussion about this, and he's getting sick and tired of the drama that i bring, that he broke up with me.I cant imagine my life without him, he's everything i could ever want, and i want him back so bad. What should i do? Please help me!
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (1 May 2008):
Hi darling,
How did the girl who told you your bf cheated on you actually know? Do you believe you can trust her? Would she have some unlterior motive to try and break you and your bf up?
The best piece of advice I have EVER been given was "don't listen to what a guy says, watch what he DOES!". This relates back to the old saying "Actions speak louder than words". It is 100% true.
Anybody can say "I would never cheat on you" and they could either mean it or not. It doesnt matter what they say, what counts is how they behave.
So does your bf act in a way that shows he respects you?
Does his actions represent good values and morals?
Is he a man of his word?
Only you can decide what you feel is true.
However I must say that he does seem a bit guilty. I say this because it sounds like he tried to reverse the situation around to you and place blame and emphasis on you by saying hes sick and tired of all your drama.
He then broke up with you. What sort of person does that if they arent guilty? If he was innocent you would think he would be trying so hard to show that to you. I think it is possible that he knows hes been caught out and doesnt think he has a chance at making you fall for a lie, so hes given up. Either that or hes incredibly offended with you thinking such a bad thing about him that he just cant face that. But honestly, if it was me and I was innocent I would be fighitng like hell to prove to my partner I was innocent, nto giving up.
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