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writes: Case Of the Best FriendShe Wont go away. I have been with my current bf 4 11 months and I truly am deeply inlove with him. How ever I feel like I can not be with him with his bestfriend around. She was inlove with him before we got together and they almost had sex. I always see her and her immature group of friends and I know that she hates the fact that we are together even though she makes out like she is really happy. She has been a problem for 8 months and he continuosly defends their relationships as just friends but still admits that he once had very strong feelings for her. Her presence is so painful for me and we have even broken up on many occasions due to the arguments we have because of her. What should I do am I over reacting?
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (12 June 2006):
 dear reader no way are you over reacting i think your b/f needs a good eye opening talking to i think you need to have a word with them both get to the bottom of whats going on between them in my experiance after you've split up there is no way you can stay that close friends its just madness.
sorry this is just a short one but what more can i say have a word with them see what happens
good luck best wishes xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2006): I've been there myself with this problem.I too was paranoid and jealous over the situation.As Smiler said you have him she dont I took it upon myself to tease them over this and made a point off this everytime they was around it worked and eventually they was the one to feel uncomfortable and not me.Try to over come this and good luck with the situation and once again remember he is yours not hers ;0)
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reader, Smiler +, writes (12 June 2006):
 Hey there
Well sweetie what a state your working yourself up to here come on don't be so upset over this girl :o) that is playing straight into her hands your giving her exactly what she wants you and your guy arguing and arguing over her, babe while i do understand your concerns about her you have to try and let it go kinda rise above it cause it sounds like you have tried several times to talk to him about her and he constantly defends there friendship so you have to find a way of putting up with her i realise how hard that is sweetie... but his best friend is such a tiny part of his life you are the one he loves and has loved for 11 months so he is obviously into you in a big way cause other wise you would of split by now.... if i were you i would play on the fact she wants him and you have him kinda thing you know, show her just how happy you and your man are and that the arguements have stopped and she is no longer pulling your strings, even though it gets to you try to show her that it is not effecting you to at all in fact you two have never been happier that will push her nose right out of joint... trust me cause i think she is playing on your jealousy alot and insecurities so if they ain't there she can't play on them can she... can you kinda see my point sweetie...
I hope my advice was able to help you out with your situation sweetie and good luck with this... if you ever need a friend or a chat or just more advice don't hesitate to email me sweetie, I would love to hear from you again and know how you got on... Remember i'm always here for you anytime ok
You Take Care Sweetie X
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