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writes: If I really wanted my ex back, would I be missing him? This sounds strange, but we've been on and off since last December, he's given me the best times of my life, and I think I still love him, and know I want him back. But I don't ever look back on what we had and think 'I miss him'. Is this normal?
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (2 November 2006):
 This one confused me a little, I have to confess, which may or may not accurately reflect your state of confusion. How, truly, can you seperate the times you had with this guy from himself as an individual?? They are one and the same thing, would you have had the same times with somebody else?? The answer has to be surely not. Part of the experience was being with *him*.
Is it not possible that there are aspects to him you don't miss or parts of the relationship that were faulty and these have made you erect a mental block where you don't *want* to miss him. Did he do something to hurt you?? I think you need to maybe make a list of what you do miss and what you dont to unblock all your thoughts. Hope that helps. Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2006): youre halfway there - if you dont miss him but you think you still love him then youre halfway there. However, the other end of the road is still a long way off if you still think you love him.i too split from a boyf last december and liked him a lot, i still miss him but dont love him, so im closer to being over him than you are, i'm afraid, cos its better to stop thinking that you love him before you stop missing him.In reality, you cant say you dont miss him if you think you still love him because that is contradicting yourself. you MUST miss him if you think thst.
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