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writes:Hi, it's been three long years since I've been here, but last time I was here I was talking about possibly getting with my lab partners let's call her "Vicki".We were in a relationship for the past 3 years and it just ended 3 months ago. We ended on good terms and we're still friends but that's not what my problem lies.My problem is that I'm wondering if I'm moving on too quick. There's this amazing friend in my life named Jamila, whose been my rock, my support since school. There's always been a chemistry between us (that through my relationship, Vicki hated). We'd have long phone calls at night, ect.Towards the end of my relationship with Vicki, Jamila and I started hanging out more and after Vicki and I broke up, Jamila revealed that she's always had feelings for me which coupled with my own loneliness led to a hot night of passion between us.I just ended a serious relationship three months ago and now I'm jumping into bed with a trusted friend...Am I moving on too quickly, rebounding, or what?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 November 2014):
 Eh, dont overthink, just go for it. If it feels right then it is all good. Forget about what other people think is right, you are the one living your life. But do not count on your ex still wanting to be friends and civil after you have just proved she had every reason to dislike the "friendship", as it was not platonic at all... As just proved.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 November 2014):
 I would say three months is enough time for some. I myself took a year off being single after a break up. There is no strict timeline of when a person gets over an ex and getting ready for another relationship. The problem is you jump into bed with a friend without asking what you want out of this. You either date Jamila or distance yourself from her as this close friendship is going to cause problems in your future relationships. She is going to get hurt too every time you choose other women over her. You have a good friendship with her and chemistry, the only thing missing is romantic feelings which she has for you though. This makes it a rather one sided friendship from her side.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2014): I don't think its a rebound or too quick- sounds like the attraction has been all along and was repressed by your previous relationship. Sounds like you might have a good understanding already through your chats, so why should it be too quick?
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