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writes:Hello to everyone,I have a few for me relevant questions that I can't get answered by myself... About relationship.I'm together for almost 3 months with the person for whom my feelings have gone wild, REALLY wild. The same thing happens to her. We are incredibly in love with eachother. We have little misunderstandings witch always end with a "I'm so damn sorry, I didn't ment to fight with you". We understand eachother incredibly well, we like the same kind of lifestyle. This discussions come from so infimal stupidities as a little joke, and just go for 5 minutes or so.We both study and got to know eachother in my hometown. Her family lives 8 km from where I do, and we had first contact ina pretty awkward way. We started really hating eachother, almost wishing us death or so! Then I apologised, 2 weeks later, at our 2nd date, we wildly fell in love in eachother. Luckily we got together in holidays from university. Here we have almost 3 months free. we spent almost everyday together. Now the new semester has begun. She studies 45 mins away from me, she studies pharmacology, and has classes from 8-18 in the afternoon, having almost no time for anything. I study nanotechnologies, but we have to build our schedules ourselves; she gets all plans done. She started her studying yesterday. Sunday as well as yesterday I staid over night at her place. I actually didn't want to go to her yesterday, but here is the problem:For some reason I feel enormous, stitching pain, I get depressed and feel completely nervous when she is not near me.. This weekend we will not see eachother because I have to go to a seminary that is very important for me, and I'll miss the Halloween party to witch we both got invited. She will be attending alone, witch really sucks for me.. I've had more relationships and damn hard times in my freaking life, witch turned me hard and cold as a block of ice. I could be without my partner for months without feeling even a single bit of empty ess whatsoever, and i also loved the girls before her. But with her it's different, it hurts so bad that I start crying, loose my whole motivation and only want to go to see her.. Am I lovesick? How kan I counter it? because if I cannot handle it, I'll fail in my bachelor...Please help me out, a few tips etc. Would be great..Thanks for your attention! I wish you all a nice day.
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reader, John Trenor  +, writes (26 October 2010):
It’s fairly normal to feel what you are feeling, it has been three months and you are very attached. I would suggest for you both to slowly introduce a new topic, like your academic goals. Talking to her about the future and setting some goals will inspire a common truths or a bond between you both and in effect alleviate the anxiety that derives from you not knowing what the future holds for you both and were you stand in it. Clarifying your common goals will inspire you and her to succeed in life and will make your love for each other grow even stronger. Stay well.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 October 2010):
 Ok it sounds like you are quite insecure and in the past you have never allowed yourself to show your feelings to yourself or others and now you have let your feelings go because you really like and trust your girl and now anxieties are kicking in because you dont want to be a part from her, do you trust her when you are not around? Maybe you are scared that someone will take her away from you but you cant live your life like this, spend time with her when you can but concentrate hard on your degree as this is your future career.
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