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writes:Me and my long term girlfriend broke up 6 weeks ago, both admitting there was 'something missing' from our relationship...within 3 weeks we'd seen each other a couple of times - and slept with each other both times...talked and admitted we still love each other.She then asked not to see me until the end of June, so i am going to give her the space she requests...however I've done a lot of thinking and desperately want to try again - however we agreed not to see each other until the end of June...Realistically - what do you guys think our chances are of giving it a go again?I'm hoping when she sees me her feelings will come flooding back...or am i living in a dream world???
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (13 June 2006):
 It is possible for another go. The fact that she said she wants some time is a good thing.
Has this ever happened before? Like, have you had breaks in the past or has this "something missing" issue been raised before? Or was this completely out of the blue? I think a bit will depend on that.
Also when you say "something missing" do you two know what it is or is it just a feeling that something is not right? Has there been any major trust or committment or compatibility issues in the past?
I think you need to respect her wishes and keep your distance but I think you also need to do a lot of thinking on your own - like what do you want out of the relationship? How can you fix it? Can it be fixed?
I would seriously think about all these issues so at the end of June your head is in shape - you know what you want and how to go about it.
good luck.
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reader, hannieseds  +, writes (12 June 2006):
 Hey there,
You have made the right step by giving her the space she needs - cliche but absence does make the heart grow fonder! So hopefully this will be true in your case.
There is ALWAYS a chance that things will go your way. What kind of world would we live in if we didn't believe in the positives and in chance?
My man wasn't sure about US a few months back and asked me to give him space so he could figure out what was going on in his head. It was bloody hard to not see each other (since we live together) but what was harder was not knowing what he was thinking and if he was getting any closer to wanting me 100% again! The space we gave each other was the BEST THING EVER. Sometimes this is all long-term couples need to realise what they could lose. Hence to say, we are even stronger and more beautiful than we were BEFORE we had the time apart.
Keep thinking positive thoughts and if things are meant to be, then they will be! Just busy yourself with things you enjoy and use this time for yourself.
You'll be fine - and since you were long-term, know that she isn't just going to throw what you have away, she will fight it to the death to get the 'missing part back'. xxx
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reader, auntie claire +, writes (12 June 2006):
 dear reader everyone has the right to dream and since you say that something has happened both times you have seen eachother then may-be there is a chance sometimes we women just need some space to find ourselves again that doesn't mean its all over (in most cases anyway) but i agree with you, you should give her the time she has asked for then may i suggest taking her out to discuss where things lye
i hope things work out but remember don't be too pushy you'll only scare her off
good luck and keep me posted xxx
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