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writes:Living in Miami, I was in a 3 year relationship and lived with the girl for 2 years, and got engaged. Everything was pretty good until we got engaged - her idea. She broke it off and while I had been under other pressures and things weren't great at the time, I was shocked that she dropped me without much reason. Her parents wanted her to marry an Italian man, and I am Irish, but I don't think this was a factor. We moved out into separate places. She started a long distance relationship soon after we moved out. We didn't talk, but met up to exchange possessions, and hooked up a little. Then we discussed getting back together, but she didn't want to. Then I stopped calling her. She contacted me to see how I was doing and we started to talk as friends, she told me about the new guy, which we discussed, about us and what happened, as well as how she thought she hastily broke it off with me and how we could try again which is what I told her I wanted, but she wouldn't leave the new guy, who lives in New Mexico. I was torn between trying to be friends, but it hurt to hang out and have fun while she wouldn't pursue us. I ended all communication. And she has for the most part obliged, other than a text to tell me she will not contact me as i requested. I've started to date, but i still want her. I feel that we can make it work and that she wants to, but may need time. I also think if more time passes, I will be seriously dating someone else and another shot will be impossible. Am I kidding myself, or does this actually have a chance some day? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): I had an eerily similar situation. She was confused and did come back, but I had moved on and had met someone else and was engaged again. I told her no and she is now bouncing from unhappy relationship to unhappy relationship, which makes me sad, but she had her chances and blew it. Good luck and stay strong. If she's smart she won't waste more time and contact you soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): Honey it doesnt sound like she is ready to settle down at all. Who knows how long it will be before she figures out what she wants? My advice is move on and let her be the one to initiate contact if she decides she wants to see you. Dont put your life on hold it seems like you have done that enough for her.
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