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writes:i'm not sure if my heart is hurting or if it just needed to be done.-long epic on and off relationshipi've worked with me ex boyfriend for over 2.5 years. we were friends for 6 months before we started dating. we dated for 'bout 3 months when he broke up with me. it is an interracial relationship. he said that his parents and his sister esp. did not want us together. i then found out he started dating some girl that his sister worked with, like a few days after we were done. it hurt so much, the way he let me find out and plus i had to work with him and it was thrown in my face.i moved on and five months later he breaks up with her and tries to get back with me, but as a fwb situation cuz he doesn't want a relationship. i go along w it cuz i felt that i loved him, but couldn't handle it so i ended things and he was mad at me, but told my friend that i broke his heart.we talked as friends again and two months later we kind of get together at a party. i was confused and tried to get him to tell me what was going on but he never talked to me.only said it was a mistake and that "we are still friends right?" i felt soo used so i moved away for college and stopped talking to him.now six months later he starts coming back again. we get intimate (stupid me, but he's acting and telling ppl that we are getting back together. so i invited him to my house to spend time together. he was supposed to call me but never did. so i texted him and he called me at 1am Drunk, saying he just got back from a big party, i was hurt. i never responded and he never called me for a full week until we had to work together. at that point i lost it because feel like he is using me and i'm tired of it. i told him that i am sick of this situation and him and that if he doesn't want to be with me, then leave me alone since he's constantly online with his russian website talking to girls. i was livid. i feel like he's mad at me. we don't even look at eachother anymore at work.all my friends say i was justified in my actions cuz they know how much he has broken my heart, but at the same time i feel kinda sad. did i make the right decision. my other co-worker says my ex does have feelings for me. but why does he treat me this way if he cares about me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008): Dont you find it funny how whenever you are moving on and getting over a guy they always seem to walk right back in the picture? well this is usually the case. but i really do think you made the right descision. you cannot let him walk all over you and expect you to be there when he wants you to.
it seems from what you wrote, that when he has other girls in teh picture he doenst need you. and when those girls are not there he all of a sudden needs you. if he wants you that badly he has to seriously prove himself to you. i hope you understand what i am saying. but i think you were 100 % correct in your decision to tell him to leave you alone unless he will treat you with respect and not use you. good luck :)
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