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writes:So I am wondering if anyone out there is an expert on body language. Theres this person in my life who well I find quite attractive. The problem is he has a matter of authority above me and is responible for my performance in what I do. I am not trying to start something. I just notice he is very touchy feely with everyone. He says hello to me by embracing my arms or grabbing onto them. He communicates through touching your hand or arm or giving a slight gesture here or there. The problem is he is like this with everyone not just me. Although I wonder if he is like that a bit more maybe, he does compliment me and in emails he was a little informal. I am probarly just trying to see something that is not there. Any thoughts? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (28 November 2012):
 what are you trying to see?
it does not matter if he is attracted to you or not.. he's your boss... it's not a good scenario.
Personally I find that it's not very professional to be touchy feely at work...
I'm very informal at work... I called a guy honey yesterday.. I doubt he thinks I'm hitting on him...
There's an old saying "when you hear hoofbeats don't look for zebra's look for horses"
basically stop looking for unusual things and go with the most obvious, he's an informal touchy feely guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2012): You're probably into him and want to "confirm" what may or may not be there. Only time will tell, but if he is like this with everyone, it's hard to tell. Typically smiles that "linger" for more than a second or 2 are indicative, but not the only way to know for sure. Good luck and be careful as he is your boss it seems.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (27 November 2012):
If you are genuinely 'not trying to start something,' then please stop 'trying to see something that is not there.'
He is in a position of authority over you and trets you the same as everyone else. You answered your own question, you know.
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