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51-59,
anonymous
writes:People make all kind of remarks about my age. I am in my 40s, I know I look good for my age. My husband is 8 years older than me and has a beard. May be he is looking a bit much older than me, but not to the point that it's possible to imagine he is my father. For the past year at least 10 people all ages, not only really older people asked him if he is my father. He doesn't care, or may be seemingly doesn't care. I had comments from people for the past year ranging from "really, you already have children?" to one lady suggesting me a book with the title "Fear of nearing 50" . There was this man sitting on a bench with me, my fathers age in his 70s And someone asked him if I am his wife. Well, anyway I find ALL comments innapropriate. I don't think people with all their different opinions and views on age should make any sort of comments whatsoever especially to a woman of a certain age. My girlfriend when I had this conversation with her, said she doesn't care at all what people say about her age. And she also made remarks about me being too sensitive about this issue and me kind of being ridiculous about it. She is in her early forties also, and has a 4 year old son. She told me that people quite often ask her if this is her grandson. But she couldn't care less. I really don't believe her.I don't think i am the only woman out there who is sensitive about her age. Just wanted some opinions. Reply to this Question
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reader, malvern  +, writes (25 July 2013):
 I wouldn't worry about what other people think of your age. It's a compliment to you that they think you are younger than you are. People say the same sort of things to me and I'm always very pleased. It is better that people think you look good than have people think you look old for your age.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 July 2013):
 I doubt you are the only woman (or man) who is sensitive about their age. I used to be when I was younger because I have always looked way younger then I am (still do).
When I had my first child at 30 - I had a woman comment on kids having kids ( I was playing and being goofy with my daughter in the park), I looked at her and laughed. She got miffed and I showed her my drivers license and then she finally got embarrassed..
People are stupid. Some more then others. Some really should learn to stick a sock in it and keep their questions and comments to themselves. This is something you CAN NOT control, so you need to find a way to let it go.
If they ask you something you find absolutely STUPID or INSENSITIVE, have you ever tried to turn it around on them? It MIGHT make them think....
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