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writes:ok i have already posted this question. but i think i jumped around too much so i'll start from the begining. could get boring see this guy whom is 27, and i also work with him.it all started out innocent we flirted and joked at work with each other. well i went to a friends house and we were all outside hanging out and he showed up there with a friend well after a couple hours we were sitting beside each other on the picnic table and he started holding my hand. i would have never tried anything with him giving the age difference and all.i was leaving and he came to me and started kissing me i told him i had to leave and if he wanted to do this right he would give me his # when he wasnt drinking cause sometimes men dont think right under the influence. so couple days later he did give me his # and he had mine already so he called me we talked all night that was 5 months ago he had called me every night after work and in the morning on weekends. then all if a sudden he stopped calling.before all of this i reminded him several times the age difference he seemed ok with it and the fact that i have 3 kids. well now hes telling me hes confused i'm too nice to him he says no other girl does the stuff for him that i do well duh i'm in love with him.anyways he says hes scared cause i have kids and he doesn't but hes never even met them. i told him lifes about taking chances like i've done see i let my gaurd down with him for some reason he stole my heart. he still texts me every morning and 2 weeks ago i got the lets be friends text crushing my heart. we texted for a while and he called me that night telling that i am one of the best girls hes ever dated and he was scared and confused because he was having feeling for me.but he has never told me how he actually feels i get the i don't know speech all the time. i finished talking to him after bout half hour and was still confused bout everything.so i called him back and asked him if i should just give up on him and he told me i wouldn't! and i had him repeat it to me again. so i'm still confused about this whole thing do i let him go or just give him some space and hope he comes to me cause i have never had this happen to me i would never put up with it and now i am. am i a fool here does he really like me or am i kidding myself here plz someone give me the right answer here cause im a little lost with this one. oh and i haven't met any of his friends except the one there that night or any of his family i'm like a mystery to everyone. anyways thanks for listening i'll be waiting for some advise :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): Men can be confused. Maybe he wants something but not every thing else you offer. See, all these women on here, don't know what they are talking about. It could be so many things. Its just really silly to post on here for answers. Talk to him, don't let other people tell you what the right thing to do is. Take a brake from each other, and if he starts to miss you, he will come back on his own.
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reader, becca78  +, writes (16 December 2008):
Seriously, you need to move on and forget about him. You're like me, sitting around waiting for the bloke to call the shots. You don't want to give up on him, but maybe you're deluding yourself. You want to give him more time, but how long? You said he hasn't wanted to see you outside of work in a month. How much more?
I am guilty of exactly the same thing, I know what it's like when there's a guy who won't quite let you move on. He gives enough to keep you there and wondering, but ultimately it's not going to happen. It hurts and it makes you feel stupid but it happens.
Alternatively, if you do really like him, cut him out of your life all together. Most of the time they come back.
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reader, jellybeaner +, writes (16 December 2008):
jellybeaner is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok so her it is. he sent me a few text messages bout 4 this afternoon and i got the 530am texts i get every morning the get ur sweet ass up one. and of course i replied to them. he was having a bad day at work(like i don't have one everday knowing what i know its hard to see him there when i'm unclear of what he wants) he was going home to drink some beer i told him that if he needed someone to talk to that i would listen and he said sounds good well i waited for a call and nothing by 10 so i went to bed.well what do u know my phone rings at 12 midnight and its him hes not to bad drunk but u could tell he was drinking.he doesnt talk about his day just a bunch of jibberish so i said what makes me so confusing to u and i got,your hott and i dont know you confuse me and he did tell me i excite him.anyways he wanted me to come and see him which i would have but he lives a half hour away and i don't want to be a booty call to him beings i confuse him still. and he hasn't wanted to see me in almost a month outside of work.so i guess my ? is he must like me somehow to call me and think of me before and after work to text me all the time you think? and should i see if he maybe wants to watch a movie sometime this week in hopes he'll tell me something or just stay under the radar still like i've been doing. i don't want him to think i'm riding him about it i'm trying to give him the space i think he needs but dam him and his text messages i can't not answer him and i think he knows it. either way ur advise is welcomed. and i think i'm addicted to this site now lol :) i love it !!! great day to all ty
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reader, jellybeaner +, writes (14 December 2008):
jellybeaner is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks gina good advise but we have been intimate on more than one occasion.so we have went to the next step. he persued me the whole time i told him that i would have never went for him i've also told him i'm not looking for a father for my kids they have one. and he knows this i made it very clear even after i spilled my guts out to him. about how i felt he still wanted me to come c him but he just wont tell me anything even if he said i dont want to be with u it would be something but i feel im on the back burner here waiting for a responce from him but yet every morning like clock work i get the good morning text the get ur fine a** out of bed text and so on but yet he says hes still confused i asked him the other day. if he thinks not seeing me outside of work would make the feelings he supposidly had for me go away and his responce was why if you have something better then go!!
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reader, becca78 +, writes (14 December 2008):
I've been in similar situations so many times. LAst year I was kind of involved with a bloke thru work (he wasn't local so didn't really see him - just lots of phone calls and texts) The amount of times he said he fancied me, wanted to be with me, was falling for me etc. etc. etc. Anyway I let myself fall for him, because I thought there was a future. Then early this year,he admitted he had a serious girlfriend. We're still in touch and he stil says he fancies me but I don't fall for it anymore (from him anyway) Moral of the story? Men lie! If he really wanted to be with you he wouldn't be mesing you around. Best thing to do is leave it. If he likes you he'll realize it and be begging you to come back.
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