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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years. We are best friends and we get on so well. However recently I have been having dreams and developing silly crushes on celebrities and other friends. I am meant to be an adult. My friend suggested that I am bored. I want to make this work and get over my stupid feelings, but how? Our sex life has slowed down recently, but we stil get on great and I love him a lot.
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reader, Devil's Advocate +, writes (5 June 2005):
 You have answered you own question, you are meant to be an adult and these are silly crushes.Are you bored? If so inject some excitement into what you do with your partner and stop fantasising about the unattainable and focus on what you have, not what you can never have.
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reader, Hell14 +, writes (4 June 2005):
You may be doing this because you are bored and need to think about something so think about your mates and the more you think about them the more you begin to have 'silly crushes' on them but over time you will get over them and they we just be mates again but you have to give yourself some time for your emotions to settle down again
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2005): You may be taking your boyfriend for granted. Imagine if he was feeling the same way as you! There is no harm in fantasies, in fact they are perfectly normal.The glue that will keep your relationship strong is that you don't act on them in reality. Allow yourself to enjoy someone else's attention or thier desire for you & dream of celebrity's, no one need ever know.But remember that you are in this realationship because you choose to be NOT because you have too.Invest your desire's into spicing up your relationship.You never know just how amazing it might become.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2005): When a woman finds herself in your situation like this she needs to gently express that she needs variety in the bedroom. Sex doesn't have to be a chore be adventurous, rent a hotel room, buy toys, go on a mini vacation just the two of you. It's obvious you love this man maybe your just tired of the same bedroom setting. If you try turning the sexual atmosphere around things may actually become interesting again. Happy love making!
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