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male
age
30-35,
*alotalo
writes:I met this girl about 2 months ago and I've fallen pretty hard for her. First of all when I met her she was in a relationship (well not technically because she didn't give the other guy the title of her boyfriend so he didn't give her the title of being his gf either). Then me and the girl just hit it off. We had a lot of fun talking every day and what not. I've helped her through many of her emotional problems and her jaw which has been hurting her for a while.Okay enough about that and on to her relationship with the guy.They've known each other for about 2 years and not so long after I met her, things have been getting worse for her. The guy started ignoring her and then she was always mad at him but I always helped her through it and calmed her down. Now she is over him.Then a couple weeks later saying that no matter what she says it wouldn't change anything, if not for the better, then she turned me down saying she still liked the other guy. I respected her answer. Then we didn't talk much for a week. I always respond to her calls, texts, etc and am there whenever she needs me.Then we started talking a lot again but every now and then she flirts with me a lot and stuff. She sometimes gets depressed but I always stopped her from doing anything like cutting herself or suiciding.She always talks about other guys to me. Am I just a good friend to her? She even told me I'm a person she loves to talk to every day. I don't wanna be hurt in all this ending up just being a friend and there for her every time something goes wrong for her but I want her to be happy. Whenever I'm busy and she needs me I just stop what I'm doing and talk to her. I give her my time but I don't think I'll ever get a chance with her. I love her so much. After we started talking more it died down a couple days ago and she didn't even reply to my text with a good morning. After she sent that 1 text she didn't reply to me any more. Am I just being used to vent? She once told me that if she ever hurt my feelings she'd be sad forever but I don't know.I want to be with her. She's great in every way. She's beautiful, smart, funny overall fun to be with. Her eyes, her hair, the way she talks to me... I just miss her every second I'm not with her.Am I wrongfully obsessed?By the way, this guy she was with just got a new gf. nor does this guy deserve her, he even said if things don't work out with this new girl he wants her to still be there for her! but she refused.I don't know what to do. I wanna be the one to hold her. I always did give love and expected nothing in return but it's been so long for me. I don't know what to do...[EDIT EDIT EDIT EDIT] She just got a boyfriend because on her aim status "I love you so and so" and all that mushy stuff.I'm willing to wait for her. She IS worth waiting for. To me she is the treasure you find once in a life time... and I know know what most of you might say, "respect her relationship if she's happy with him" and yea.but I ono i just need advice.Thanks in advance for reading this :]
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reader, Pointblank66 +, writes (16 March 2009):
I no how u feel, though I think that right now u r in her friend zone, and it seems like a friend is what she needs right now. But don't let that get u down, I'm sure she loves the attention your givin her and she will realize that u guys would be great together but for now I would continue to be a great friend till that day comes.
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