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writes:Am I being too needy or is he being unfair?I have been dating a sweet boy for three months. (We known each other for three years, and dated for six months the first year...I don’t know just felt like telling you that.) Well the second month he got a night job and it took away a LOT of the free time that he had. Now I’ll admit I got use to seeing him whenever I wanted. But I tried to be flexible with him sleeping and getting use to working so late and everything. He was doing good for a while, spending time with me when he wasn’t tired or got days off. (I also was a good girlfriend and stepped back for days off with his guy friends!) But he’s been not good at all lately. He use to text me on his break and before he went to sleep. Now Im lucky if I get that. When I call or text him when I know he’s not working he’s always asleep or with his friends and it’s a big confusing problem to try to spend time with him. I really do hate his job and I don’t think it’s good for his health (because he is tired all the time) but he just blew me off and told me I only hate it because it takes time off from me. Ah! Thats it. But tell me what you all think.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 July 2008):
Well night shifts can be hard but they are not impossible and the money is usually pretty good. With the economy the way it is, good jobs are hard to find so well done to him.
If he is splitting his time equally between his friends and you then you can't ask him to do much more.
If he is only seeing his friends then you may have a reason to complain. Why not check out his shift schedule and make plans in advance to do things? Either that or you either have to put up with things the way they are or move on.
Good Luck!! x
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (15 July 2008):
 What do you expect? He has to work, so yes, if you want him to stop working and earning a living so he can spend time with you, then yes you are needy.
If he spends all his time with his friends, yes then he is being unfair. You are a gf and should get a decent share of his free time.
If he doesn't text you as much, the honey-moon is over and most guys think that once they seduced a girl the job is done. She is in the bag and won't climb out. It is a guy thing.
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