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Am I giving out the wrong vibe?

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Question - (17 January 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 19 January 2009)
A female Ireland age 41-50, *onstermunchies writes:

Please can you help me?

I am not having much luck with men!!! Th ones that do wanna know are just mily after sex and quite honestly, I`m sick of it. I have been told that I am quite pretty and easy to get on with. The thing is though, men stare at me but I never get approached. They guys that I have liked recently are not interested so I am being rejected and it`s really getting me down. What am I doing wrong?

There is a guy that I like at work and he stares at me quite alot. I went up to him recently and asked him a question (just about work unfortunately). He answered in a friendly way but since then he has been looking at me more so. I caught him looking me up and down the other day too. Does this mean he is interested - even though he has never approached me? I am too scared to do anything myself because I cannot face another rejection. I had a serious relationship 3 years ago but we split. Ever since then, I have just had brief encounters. Am I giving out the wrong vibe?

Any advice would be very much appreciated.

Thanks

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A female reader, monstermunchies Ireland +, writes (19 January 2009):

monstermunchies is verified as being by the original poster of the question

Thank you so much for your answer....it did make me feel better about things! Although I still haven`t spoken to the guy, I am just at a loss on what to say. I`m just scared that I will get that "look". I have to try, I suppose!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2009):

As a guy thats only average (at best) looking I can't relate to your problem, but from an Irish guys perspective, it can be hard for us to approach an attractive confident woman.

There are a number of reasons for this.

1. There's the out of my league feeling.

2. Slim chance of a girl like that being single

3. Guys confident enough to do so are usually slime and he's usually got in there before us.

4. Irish women NEVER make the first move!

If you are as easy to get on with as you say then why don't you start chatting to your colleague, he is definitely interested but you'll have to find out yourself for what. Get to know him a bit in work.

I wish Irish women would start to see that it's okay to make the first move, any other country in Europe if you notice a girl is attractive and she's looking at you, she'll come over for a chat if you don't go over to her first.

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