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anonymous
writes:My bf and I have been together for about 3 and half years. He is 7 years older than I am. He has quite a high libido and we have always had a pretty steady sex life. In the beginning of our relationship, I felt like I was pretty tight for him and he would have orgasms pretty easily. Then I started squeezing down there when I felt like he was nearing climax, which he loved. Now, I find him asking me to squeeze all the time, like it doesn't feel good to him unless I do. I find myself tired out from it instead of being able to enjoy the sex myself! And I still think it feels good with him inside me, without having to squeeze.I am honestly afraid that I am becoming too "loose" for him after all these years of having sex with him. Like he's stretched me out...and it's horrifying me. How do other couples deal with this? Do other people go through this? I try to do kegel exercises, but really, how much can this help? It's not going to make me any tighter, just allow me to squeeze tighter, right? Is it possible that he is not getting as hard, and therefore not as big? And if he's not getting as hard, would that just be because I don't feel as good to him anymore?..Like some sort of vicious cycle?Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): hi, i asked the original question. In response to "armywife", that's what i meant by "squeezing down there", that I would contract those muscles you are talking about. The exercises are called "kegel exercises". Thank you for your response. I have been pulling those as tight as I can, but it doesn't seem to be enough anymore..he keeps telling me to squeeze, as though he can't tell that I am already doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2009): There are certain muscles you can contract that will tighten up during sex it make him feel amazing. I don't knwo what they're called but i can give you an explaination. (kinda gross but the only way i know how): when you are urinating, try to stop the stream in the middle and if it stops, thost are proabably the muscles i am talking about. When i pull those tighter, my man finishes like 40% faster. I do it when i don't feel like going on anymore.. lol
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