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writes: Dear Agony Aunt,I'm 17 years old and I'm in love with a 23 year old woman. We are really good friends and have spent nearly every day of the last five years in each others' company. She always comes to me when she needs a shoulder to cry on and I think she has sent me a few signals but because of the age gap I can't be sure. Over the last few months we have gotten very close and I feel that we should be closer. Is it foolish of me to love her or should I try my luck? Reply to this Question
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reader, mystify +, writes (3 February 2006):
 my husband was just younger than youwhen we met and i was older than this girl and its the best thing we did to get together , you wouldnt be foolish to to give it a go age dosent matter , try and get a few signals from her first by flirting stronger and if it seems to work then ask her
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reader, alwaysbrokenhearted_20056 +, writes (29 January 2006):
 No. you cant help what you feel. I am in love with a guy that is 10 years older than me. But i can run to him when i need him, and i know that he will always be there to listen to me. Tell her how you feel. Maybe she feels the same way and just doesnt know how to react to her. I am a women who thought i was crazy for falling for a man 10 years my senior but it all worked out for the best. But you'll never know unless you try. Rejection may be hard but if you love her its a worth a try.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2006): Figure out ways to be forwards about your feelings, but be ready for rejection and feeling a bit awkward for a week if whatever you try was too much. It will make you a lot more robust about how you act.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2006): You have learn to be subtle but make it very obvious how you're feeling. it's hard to interpret signals because people can be quite complicated.
you have to learn to say things like" perhaps we should go for a drive together sometime"" what is your car like"
if she is older, you would expect her to take charge of it and to be quite forwards with you about going out, although it might have to be you. If you do end up going out, make sure you don't go too fast for her.
Ask her on a date by saying you should both spend time doing something together sometime or else by saying you would be happy to make her dinner sometime.
Learn how to touch people as well, you have to be comfortable with kissing someone on the cheek or fidgeting with people. You know how you fidget with rulers and papers and things, the key to knowing women is to learn to fidget with their hands or their hair or their clothes sometimes when you talk to them. at first you will look stupid but if you get used to it than you will feel a lot more human.
Probably the best thing is just tell your girlfriend you don't know what to do sometimes when you're close to someone and like have a look at her watch or have a look at her nails "just to see if they are really actually perfect" or something like that
Have a good think along those lines about what is natural to say and do.
Read some more stuff on the Internet about getting physical with complete strangers and street dating. It will have a lot of relevant advice for you.
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