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writes: I've met this 18 year old girl she's quiet, pretty, cute, and shy. She's never had a boyfriend before, so she's an innocent girl. I’m 18 and I like her, she's something different and special to me, but the problem is she is a challenge. I’ve impressed her in many ways, shown her expressions/emotions of how I feel, several times she's shown me the same back, but it took her some time as she sooo adorably shy but it was worth it. Anyways we hang around a lot, and the other day I asked her to come down mine so she did, we talked had a laugh and then there was this spark between us. I started playing with her, making jokes, etc… I slowly held her hand and placed both my hands on top of hers and underneath, she was comfortable with it, then I gave it some time, and the time seemed right so I brushed her hair back off her ear, she smiled, I gave her eye contact, and we both came closer, we were just about to kiss, lips met but she backed off. At that time I was confused of what I had done wrong, I guessed it was because of the kiss. I said sorry and gave her some space. I did totally understand she might have freaked as she's so shy and has never been in this position before. I sent her a bouquet of flowers saying sorry. But it’s been a few days and no reply back from her, I didn’t want to hassle her too much so I just left 1 voicemail saying sorry for whatever I have done wrong and phone back. My question is am I doing the right thing by giving her some space? And why do you think she freaked and backed off? Was it because I done something wrong? Any suggestions of what I could do to help her out would be appreciated. I’m not really bothered as much if she does not like me; I’m more worried about her not talking to me and of something I might have done wrong during the special moment. All help would be great. Any extra suggestions would be wonderful thank you.
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reader, blawndie  +, writes (30 December 2008):
 You're doing the right thing. Innocent girls want a bit of a chase too. She might just be shy, she might be worried she's going to fall hard too. She might be worried you're a player, she might be worried you're going to break her heart. But she's probably just shy, maybe she's never been put in a situation like that and she doesn't know what to do or she'll avoid it because it's new to her. If you really like her and think it could go somewhere there is no hurt in trying. Continue giving her space but let her know you're still around. Give her some time to get used to kissing or anything like that. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): oh ok thanks again good advice. I'll consider taking it to consideration
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): its good advice, but however i have not asked her about the situation so i don't really know how she would react. I do not want to give up as it is hard to find inocent girls, mostly they are all been with someone. However she hasn't and there's something about her that's more special to me so i feel like i should do more. Although i may not have done anything wrong i want to get through to her any ideas of how? And as far as i have known her there have been no emotional issues.
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