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female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have been spending time with a man who I think is interested in me. When we are together he is very affectionate. We cuddle and touch a lot. However he never goes much further than that. Our kisses are chaste. He hasn't come on to me sexually. He has told me that he wants to been friends at this time. He's conflicted about relationships he tells me. Yet when I make the decision to pull away from him he does things to pull me back to him. He takes me out on dates, he volunteers his time to work on various projects with me. He takes himself out of his comfort zone to be with me. People who see us together think we are dating because of how we are with each other and the almost tangible energy that is between us. I've also been warned that he is a player. Yet he's never done anything sexually inappropriate with me and frankly I wish he would. He tells me that he respects me and values what we're building on. We get along really well. We talk about just about everything. We laugh, flirt and are very cozy when we're together. We just seem to get each other. But the sexual tension is driving me crazy. He seems to be as into me as I am him. He checks me out, makes delicious comments, whispers in my ear, kisses my neck when I least expect it, etc. I've gone out with a few guys during this three month period and not one of them excites me like this man. However a friend raised an interesting question. She wondered if he was gay but seriously on the down low. I hadn't thought of that because of his reputation as a player. She pointed out that he cuddles with a seriously hot and gorgeous woman (me) and is emotionally intimate with her but won't make a move on her. "No straight man is that virtuous!" she says and has thus concluded that he's gay and uses numerous women to hide that fact. Based on what I've shared in the above story do you think I'm dealing with a gay latino man on the down low? The other question would be if he's not gay is he simply not that into me and if he isn't then why does he spend so much time with me?
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