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writes:Okay let me start from the beggining. When I was in year 8 I became friends with this boy and we talked but it's wasn't on a best friend level. In year 9 we started getting closer and I introduced one of my close friends to him, and like 5 months later they broke up. Throughout their whole relationship I was their confidant, we would all about the other person. So once they broke up me and the boy started getting even closer, while my friendship with the girl was disappearing. The girl was upset that the boy burnt her bridge, and built mine. And this boy is very difficult. But overtime me and the girl got closer and me and the boy drifted apart. I realised that if I was friends with the boy I couldn't be with the girl. So on valentines day, when me and he boy was closer than ever he asked me to go cinema and a restaurant with him. I put it on my BBM status and suddenly one of he girls friends messages me saying that "it's out of order for you to go out with your friends ex". I told the boy about this and he said I shouldn't worry he would deal with it. So over time me and the boy would go on outing together, and spend time together. Everyone in school (were in year 10) kept asking are we going out, and we aren't. Spontaneously me and the boy didn't talk for like a month for some reason, and me and the girl was friends again. Recently I started talking to the boy, and asked him "do you have any feelings for me?" He kept trying to avoid the question and said "I think you know how I feel" if I think back to all that's happened there are many occasions that he's acted like he had feelings for me, once on the bus when my ex asked him if he liked me and he had a smile of his face, when we were FaceTimeing and his family were there and they were asking questions and he was blushing, that he'd always single me out from the other girls. Yesterday we were talking about it and he said "if we were to go out wouldn't that hurt the girls feelings?" Do you think I'm breaking the girl code, and this girl has her own man now, so why should she care?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2014): Look you are not breaking the girl code If she has someone and she has happiness then so can you that's so not fair!! You deserve your own happiness with the one you love if she makes you chose then she is not a true friend!! Make sure you totally love him though as you said you had your ups and downs!! Don't listen to what everyone is saying they are just horrible people do what you think is right for you!! Good luck!!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (11 May 2014):
 No, you're not breaking girl code. She's not really your friend if you're on and off from the friendship every other month. Then she's more like an acquaintance. Besides, she dated him for 5 months I don't know how long ago. It's difficult to follow your story because your friendship with her and the guy is so on and off all the time.
I don't think you have much of a friendship with this guy either, if you are on and off like this and suddenly don't speak for a while and somehow you allow a mere month of not speaking together to come between you... It sounds like a vague friendship to me.
But anyway, no you're not breaking any codes here. Date him all you want. Just don't post statuses about it or brag about it because apparently some of your "friends" are jealous people and don't want you to have a life of your own..
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