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writes:i want to know if i am bisexual or not. lately i have been having fantasies about being with women. i am happily married to the father of my children but cant stop thinking about being with a woman. Reply to this Question
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reader, Mixylicious  +, writes (9 December 2008):
Aww its mixy again. just read your comment aww hun i feel for you he sounds confusing to me let alone to you hun. I cant say to you do it because that is kinda cheating but i suggest you try talking to him an see what he says about the 3some re assure him theres nothink wrong with him & it doesnt matter as long as you both are happy. try suggesting more things an try pushing the subject further introducing people etc that might make him relax an he might like it. im sure he would cos alot of mens fantasies are bout two women. but if you do go ahead etc it will be a bonus for you of course then you can put your fantasies to reality and she how u felt etc & if you'd do it again. ive been with a girl and i certainly would i loved it :) lol. hope this helps xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): There are different ways to do a threesome. Maybe you could talk about it further with him. Does he mean the 2 of you and another man? The 2 of you and another woman? Does he want to participate either way, or does he just want to watch you with the other person? Maybe since he has brought up a threesome in the past, he might feel more comfortable with watching you with another woman vs. trying to please both of you (or even just you). With a threesome (haven't done it myself and don't think I will, but I see nothing wrong with it so long as all partners are open and willing), I've read that boundaries and limits need to be established ahead of time. I.e., who is allowed to be with who, who will watch, who will participate, who and what is off limits to who. With some very adventurous couples, I am sure there are no limits, it's anything goes, no holds barred, which is great if that is what they are comfortable with. I've also read that having a threesome can be very emotionally damaging after the fact for some people, and they end up regretting having done it. So, it seems it really requires much thought, debate, and discussion beforehand so everyone is on the same page, and everyone has the same understanding of what can and can't happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the opinions and help in deciding what to do abut my problems. my husband though is a closed book and doesnt understand or care what i feel about the bedroom. that is what makes this so hard for me. i want to talk to him but would like to find out before i say anything he has brought up the thought of a 3some but everytime i say lets go for it he frezzes. i dont know if it is becouse he is size inadiquit or because he dont last long or just not experimental i am cofused but would like to know if i like it or not
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reader, VictoriaAnn +, writes (8 December 2008):
Do you have any girlfriends that you're fairly attracted to? I mean, I'm sure they'd understand if you told one of them. Or even spend the night in alone, and as vulgar as it sounds, watch some girl-on-girl action! (It's everywhere, as you probably already know). I agree with the others about the bicurious deal. Don't do anything to jepoardize your marriage. But if I were you I'd just test the waters, so to speak. If you enjoy it, try talking to your husband about it and figure out what he has to say about it. It's 100% normal, so no worries!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): Yeah I would call it bi-curious. You can't know until you've tried it really. If were to try it and like it then you might be a bi. Most people go through a bi-curious phase at some point =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): I agree...I think you are bi-curious vs. bi-sexual...there is a difference.
I think I too am bi-curious. I started to think maybe I was bi-sexual when I posted a profile on a lesbian website in the hopes of meeting another woman and experimenting. When it came down to it, I couldn't do it. I truly had no interest in meeting up with another woman, nor having a sexual encounter with her in the real world.
However, I do enjoy woman-on-woman sex in pornography, or watching a video of a woman pleasuring herself. Sometimes when I masturbate I fantasize that it is another woman doing it to me. Sometimes I fantasize that my man is another woman doing things to me (though not too often, and it is fleeting).
Fantasy vs. reality are 2 very different things. Can you talk to your husband about it? Perhaps the 2 of you can explore what's really going on, whether it truly is just curiousity and fantasy, or if you really want to make it a reality.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): Hi, your more then likely bi-curious then bi-sexual theres a differnce becausr bi-curious mean you are thinking or wondering what it would be like to be with a woman or to kiss etc a woman & bi-sexual is when you actually fancy both men & women. Ive kissed a girl & i liked it but im 18 so im experimenting lol. hope this helps
Luv mixy xx
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