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anonymous
writes:Ok.. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years and half now, we had a difficult time last year 2010 when he left to study in france (was mainly my fault I was so mean to him and acted like a cold bitch, I guess I couldn’t handle the long distance relationship very well) so we broke up for less than 2 months then we got back together, I learned that he was dating another girl while we were apart, but he ended everything with her when he got back with me, now he is back and after almost a year I found a pic of her in his mobile and he told me that they exchanged texts for new years and birthday wishes, I know he loves me and he is very loyal to me but I really can’t help but feel very uncomfortable with him being in contact with her, he unfriend her on facebook for me and also deleted her pic form his cellphone, but I still feel uncomfortable about the little contact they have, he says I’m being immature about the situation and a birthday sms dosnt mean anything, but I don’t know why I feel so bad about this, is it me who is really immature or should he just stop any kind of contact with that girl?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe realist, thanks that was very helpful, i already feel better, i will grin and bear it i guess :)
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (10 May 2011):
 If that is all the contact truely is then I think it is a bit much to tell him to cut contact. I know it has been rough but you still have to trust him and I don't think there is any evidence that he has ever cheated on you. For what he texts her for he could be doing the same for a distant family member. It doesn't really signal a close relationship between them.
Showing that you are comfortable with him will show that you care and trust him which I think will help bring the relationship back together.
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