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writes:My boyfriend has a few girlfriends. He has actually slept with one of these girls but says it was a drunken mistake and that they are like brother and sister. He has this other girl mate who is only 23, she calls and texts all the time. I can accept that he will have other mates but it annoyes me at the rate she makes contact...every time his phone goes its her. I am personnally finding it hard to take as I think its too much. I have explained how it makes me feel but he just says I need to accept it and thats it. He says she is just young and needs looking after...and that when she finds a fella of her own it will get better. He also got his car impounded by the police the other weekend because some other girl mate called him (who I have never met)for a lift at 11pm at night...he had no insurance. He was then asking me for the money to get it back out as he has no job. Am I being unreasonable just because these mates are girls? He has lad mates but never really seems to contact them or do stuff for them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni would be interested to hear from any men on this topic....?xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey guys thanks for your replies. This girl mate that keeps texting all the time is not the one he has slept with. My problem being is that he just seems to be at their beck and call. I dont think he would find many girlfriends that would be accepting of this...unless they didnt care much for him. I cant even go out when this girl is there cus she just likes to take over. I have seen texts from her and she says I will never change (with regards to seeing her) and she hopes he knows what he is doing. I just feel like I come second. He hardly has any contact with his lad mates.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): He's not being honest. In any case it doesn't really matter does it because the most important thing is that YOU don't like it (understandably) and he doesn't change his behaviour to improve the situation. Clearly they are more important than you. Ask yourself this.... at what point would you actually walk away? i think the answer is now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): Oh dear. I'd like to be able to write that you shouldnt worry but I can't. This guy is putting his girl 'mates first', going all out for them late at night when he should be with you. Whether he is up top anything else with these girls I dont know as I dont know him but the way in which he is acting with them alone is worrying. Girl mates + boy mates = disaster. This girl that keeps texting him obviously isn't over him and he probably likes to keep her hanging to make him feel good about himself but that's what he has you for! You can do better than that hun. xx
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (25 November 2008):
 Mmmmm.... sounds like this guy is a player! His ego is boosted by the fact that this young girl calls him all the time! And then he has the cheek to ask you for money when his car was impounded... Sweetie, I think the writing is on the wall, so to speak... time for you to move on with your life. This man is so wrapped up in his female friends that he doesnt see you except as a convenience.Honeygirl
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (25 November 2008):
 You are not being unreasonable. This is ridiculous, he is trying to be what to those girls? A father? A brother? She needs looking after my ass! She has got her own family for that.
Maybe if he was working he would have less time for all these loooking afters.
Anyway thats just my point of view, see what others will say x
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