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writes: I am a 38 year old single latina mother that has always been interested in younger men sexually. I am by no means rich and am not looking for someone to " take care" of me as I am very independent, happy and secure in my life as it is.I met a 23 year old Italian man and we hit it off immediately. I wasn't looking for a relationship.It just happened gradually and I'm head over heels as he is for me. He is patient, kind, funny, and can talk to the sun comes up sometimes. He has all the qualities I want in a man who just happens to be 23. He sleeps over 3 to four times a week. We have now been together almost five months. I haven't met his parents yet for obvious reasons and we decided to wait at least 8 months to a year to see where this relationship is headed before he tells his parents since it will obviously be a big surprise and they will have the usual concerns like am I trying to use him for his money since he makes a very nice living or my favorite question, " What is a 38 year old woman doing with a 23 year old man?" But lately, as I'm sitting home, I start thinking of what the future might hold for a relationship like ours. I don't look my age and can easily pass for 27 so I have been told and exercise regularly. What happens when I do start to show my age? What happens if I cannot have any more children? I know there are no guarantees in any relationship but, should I nip this in the bud and end it now? Am I being unrealistic about this relationship and its potential. Life has so many obstacles as it is. I find myself withdrawing from him sometimes because of the anxiety I am starting to feel when I think too hard about it. The thing is...I dont know if I can end it if I tried... I really love him and haven't felt happiness like this in a long time. Please give me some different views...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009): Stay with him!! I am 38 and my boyfriend is 23 we have been together for a year now !! I was very doubtful in the begining but followed my heart and I am very happy I did !! It has been hard dealing with his family but they got over it when they seen how happy he really is!! I also deal with girls his age that want him and hate on me but as long as him and I are happy e don't even care what other people say !!! Follow your heart Hun !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2009): I think you should follow your heart. I am a 44 year woman married to a 26 year old man. Make sure that he can deal with the age difference because it the one thing that neither of you can change. As for children, I have a two daughters, 18 and 21,my husband and I have talked about childen and have decided against it because of the risk with the age factor. You are younger than I am so that may not be an issue for you,but you definely need to talk to him and see how he would feel if you cant have children. If he says that would not be a problem take him at his word. The older person seems to always have more concerns about the age difference than the younger person.Especially women. DO NOT worry about what other people think, it is your life and we all deserve to be happy! Good luck and I wish you the best!
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