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writes:my boyfriend made out with a girl last summer and he is going to stay round her house this summer with a few friends. i am also going on a camp with him where i am going to meet her after he has slept over at her house. thing is im kind of worried about both? how do i stop being paranoid, we've been together for about 7 months now and i really don't want to be paranoid because i really like him and want to trust him. how do i stop this? am i right to be slightly paranoid? Reply to this Question
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reader, hoodstar +, writes (23 May 2010):
Ok,lets be real,he didn't "make out" he probablhy already hit that before and probably wants to hit that again. so i understand you being paranoid.
Lets just say he did only "make out" with this girl, he proabably wants to sleep with her. If im you i keep an eye on him and that girl cause I KNOW that dude is planning on doing so and if you turn your head and leave them alone together for 1 second he will have that touching her toes if you know what i mean.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2010): I don't think you are being paranoid. I think it is understandable and reasonable for you to be concerned. Your boyfriend obviously has some history with this girl, and is now going to be staying at her house. So of course you will be having these kinds of worrying thoughts.
Do you think you could tell your boyfriend how you feel, and that you are worried? I know you don't want to come across as paranoid, but it is okay to have insecurities in a relationship. Maybe he could reassure you that he is no longer interested in this girl, and that it is you he wants to be with. I guess you won't know unless you try, and he won't know how you feel unless you point out your concerns to him. If he reacts badly to your fears, then that to me would be more of a worrying factor. But he might be able to put your mind at ease. So try talking to him about this, and hopefully he will be able to reassure you. Worth a try anyway. Good luck. x
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