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writes:There is this guy I work with that I have liked for several months now. One night a few months ago, we had been drinking and we ended up kissing. A few days later, I decided to tell him that I liked him, but he said that he only saw me as a friend. Stupidly, I continued to like him and then a couple of days ago we were at the bars with some other friends. He started to put his arm around me and walked with me, acting really sweet and we decided to go back to his house because both of us were tired. Once back at his house, we began talking and he asked me if I still liked him. I said that I did, and he said that he had liked me for a while now (even back when we had first kissed, and he had rejected me) but he wasn't sure if he wanted to get into a relationship with me because we were good friends and he didn't want to ruin that.So basically, we snuggled and stuff and talked about really deep stuff. He said that he wanted to talk the next day, when we were completely sober, about whether or not to get into a relationship. Well, the next day he was extremely hungover so I said we'd talk later.What happened was that he said while he did remember what was all said, he really had no idea what he was saying at the time. I guess my question is which one is the truth, does he like me or not? And does being drunk make you lie, or more truthful. This guy is very shy, so I don't know if drinking alcohol enables him to say what he really feels, or he is just a liar.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): You know the type of drunk that gets really hammered and just clings to people, slurring the words and saying, "I love you, brah" and hugging for uncomfortably long periods of time?
Yeah that's this guy. He's not really into you unless he's drunk, then his inhibitions are down and he can't really remember why he isn't into you while he's sober so he gets all up on you. Give him a sober ultimatum, Yes or no. If he keeps giving stupid responses, just walk away
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): ahhh. Drink. You cannot completely trust what this person is saying if they are hammered. I find it unlikely he was lying, but you just have to understand the nature of alcohol, and its effect. It blurs practical concerns and concerns of the past or future. He forgot all the reasons he had when he was sober to not be with you, because that's what the drink does. It lowers inhibitions and makes the moment take precedence. You were there, he was there, and bam.If a relationship is to work with this guy, you have to have a sober convo about it. If he says he doesn't remember, you remind him. Simple as that. Judging from his reaction after that, you'll know what to do. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): he was probably being honest just doesnt wanna look like a whimp by telling how he feels! ya know guys we are all grunt and no feelings lol or option 2 he was trying to get in your pants but he is also a nice guy and decided against it and really only thinks of you when drunk and horny good luck sweetie
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