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writes:So, I'm talking to this guy who's not long been out of a long term relationship. When we first met up he said that he wasn't going to rush into anything as the breakup was still fresh and I said that was fine. We've spoken via text/phone call every day for the past month, it's not a one way thing, usually he will start the conversation and I'm really starting to like him. But here's the problem... I've only met up with him twice although I invite him to come over or meet out - even offering to drive to his city to see him but he is always busy.I live and go to university in the city, whereas he commutes from another city to the campus on the outside of the city. He drives past my area on his way to and from uni, and it frustrates me that he won't even pop in for five minutes just to see me. We are both busy people working multiple jobs but I've been putting in the effort to try and see him.I want to get the ball rolling in the right direction and in all honesty I'm getting tired of organising to meet him and just being let down. I'm getting mixed signals, does he like me? Does he not? Am I being strung along? How do I make him want to see me? Or am I reading too far into this? Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2015): It says a hell of a lot that he drives past your house and doesnt stop.A guy in love would find at least fifteen minutes out of the entire day for one kiss or even a loo call and cup of tea.
I dont think he's particularly in love with you and it would be perfectly reasonable for you o have arranged other events at times he's driving past.
Believe me ,it can be annoying if he starts thinking of you as just a pit stop.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 October 2015):
 I think he is going the speed he can handle right now, which is super slow and I DO think it's because he is not all the way over his last relationship. All he seems to be able to handle is texting and calling. So he WANTS a SOCIAL connection, but maybe not really a romantic one?
Auntie SVC would tell you to STOP rowing the relationship boat for a bit, SEE if he picks up the oars or not. So stop trying to make plans to meet up, stop trying to go out of your way for HIM. If he doesn't pick up the slack (or at least mention it), you will have your answer. HE just isn't that into you.
I DO think that IF someone is VERY keen on another person he/she will try and spend as much time as they can WITH that person.
You can't MAKE him want to do anything. You are not his mom, right?
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