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writes:hi all ok so here is the thing im 26 and going out with a 23 year old , i really like him and found myself falling for him , the thing is im scared as in the past ive had really bad relationships where my ex have been abusive to me , now this bf knows about this and has been great and loving to me , he told me he loves me and i told him it back to which i do , its just my parents are very funny about him although they never met him , they told me hope he's not a scruffy guy and doesnt live in a dump and that he has a good job , the thing is he hasnt got a job at the moment but he is looking and im worried what my parents will think . should i be worried ?? they also hate me spending time with him i stay over his friday evening till sunday evening and we have fun and love spending time together , i do tell them where iam but they send me horrible voice messages i dont know what to do as i really love him , am i being selfish to my parents by seeing him every friday to sunday ???
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): Hi Hunny,
First of all no your not being selfish you are a grown woman and entitled to your private moments, You could be left home now and in a flat would they complain at that(yea probably) Sweetheart when I read your post I thought Id got younger and written in in my sleep..
Everything apart from our ages is the same as when I met my fiance, Im a tad older than you well my eldest son is 25:)
Ive been in abusive relationships, My partner is 23, And when we met he was in a bad place and didnt have a job and boy did I get some crap, But I new in my heart that he was kind and caring and very loving so I stuck to my guns. Now you would think he is everyones darling..Every single friend for fear of what happened to me in my past didnt like the age gap they didnt like the fact he had no job and so on there wasnt a good thing said, And this love can get you down as you are the one spending the time with this person and talking and learning about eachother so you are the one who knows him. Now I wasnt for one minute going to finish something which I thought was good infact great, because of other peoples judgments, And I told them this in a nice way as no one has the right to judge another as they dont no the circumstanses of what may have happened in his life. If you are happy thats all that should matter after what you have been through, This maybe why they are being like this but they cant stop you finding happiness because of your awfull past. Ive been with my fella 2yrs in march and he is still lovely and caring and I count myself very lucky to have found such a wonderfull soul, His life has come together work wise and he is a great dad to my daughter, My two sons just love going out with him, My mum just adores him and my dad thinks his the best as he fixes everything in the house and all my friend one by one have said sorry...So you be happy tell your parents in a nice way how happy you are and stick by your guns sweetheart WITH LOTS OF LOVE N HUGS MANDY xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): well i dont think that is being selfish, i dont mean to be rude here but dont u think ur parents did that when they were younger besides if u like im stay with him all the time y should they have a say in it hope u get the rite awnser
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