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writes: I have been with my b/f for over a year just to give you information.We haven't seen each other since last saturday..we saw each other last night--usually i stay over so he brings clothes from his house--where he stays with his mother--and brings them to his apartment for the next morning for work.I saw that he brought a lot of clothes in his bag--and he said they were sheets as well--he said on monday--the day he was busy doing yard work at his mom's house and shopping for an AC with her--that he went to his apartment that day to get rid of the garbage and the rest of the cake that i made him--b/c it was becoming a week old(but it was covered). But i remember he once told me--they only collect garbage on wednesday--so why would he go there monday? And he never mentioned to me at all that he went to his apartment on the day i spoke to him.Anyway--now with the sheets as well as the bedspread of course my mind goes to--was he with someone else that he washed the sheets AND the bedspread? Am i being too paranoid??--arriving at the apartment--a lot of things are as i left it--my sunglasses in a certain spot, cards i gave him,earrings on the table, it wasn't tidy so i don't know who he would want coming over without cleaning up. Am i worrying too much that he didn't mention going to his apartment anytime i spoke to him until i mentioned his clothes last night?Is it unlikely he did something if there are things of mine there in the place i left them last time? Is it weird how he just decided to go to his apartment for the garbage and then suddenly thinks--why not take the sheets home to do laundry? And then i look in the drawer where the condoms are--and we have 2 dfferent kinds and there was only one left of one of the kinds--and i could have swore there were more but i can't say 100% b/c we haven't used them in awhile and i just can't say for sure.. but i just thought there were..am i being too paranoid when everything seems as i left it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 July 2006): If he put the garbage out on Monday for collection on Wed. - what difference does it make? And why SHOULDN'T he decide to wash the sheets and bedspread?
Seems to me that you are questioning (in your own mind) every little detail; scrutinizing what he does and does not do. I really hope you are NOT cross-examining him about all this! Nobody wants to have their every move questioned.
Has he EVER given you ANY reason to think he might have cheated on you? And I do mean solid evidence, as opposed to ideas you pull literally out of nowhere?
If you tell him how you feel, without good evidence that there is something to be concerned about, it could give him the impression that you're feeling very insecure about the relationship. Nobody wants to feel that you don't trust them, you know! As for checking his phone, looking under the bed, and in his pockets - DON'T! Just forget about doing anything like that.
I think you really are worrying way too much about all this. Your best bet is to be warm, friendly and behave normally. Time to start worrying would be if he tells you he's met someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2006): u should tell him how you feel if that dosent work check his phone and his pockets and under the bed.i hope things go well for you in the futerbest wishes from annaon (feamale) (11-13)
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