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writes:Okay, in a nut shell...My cousin set me up with her best friends sister, which I went to highschool with and knew of but had never actually met. I am now three years out of highschool and in University(21) She is also at the same university as me and she is 20.The begining of July is when we started dating. We had three dates in total once a week. (football games, festivals ect..) than I went on vacation for a week and had a couple more dates and eventually we became official as of on month ago today. (2 months dating total)Anyways, my issue is that she doesn't seem to be very interested in me. I understand she has a heavy workload being in the nursing program at our school. But she does not initiate anything. I have made all the dates and plans. She has not once complimented me ever, not even something as simple as "you're funny" or whatever.She has never been flirty at all. Like she never says shes excited to see me or sends cute text/messagesAnd yesterday we both didn't have classes at the same time and I asked her to meet up with me but she didnt answer(text) until the begining of her next class because she had decided to go work out instead. She knows very well that this is the only time during the week when our classes don't overlap. I just don't understand? At the beginning of a relationship is it not normal to be cute/flirty/verbally affectionate?I understand some girls arne't like this but she isn't making up for it in other ways. Like asking me to hang out or making an effort to talk to me more than a few texts at night. Its now friday night at 5:00pm and she has not contacted me today.Whats the deal?
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reader, Kg15  +, writes (19 September 2009):
She does sound like a lousy gf from your post but if she hasn't even contacted you often or make any plans then I say you deserve someone better
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reader, manxj  +, writes (19 September 2009):
i think that you need to talk to her. i understand how annoying it can be, i have been there. now the reason she may not have replied to your text is that:
1-she hasn't read it yet
2-her cell has died
3-she has no credit to text back
i totally agree with you thinking that the start of each relationship should be all cute/bubbly and flirty and i not trying to sound cruel if you talk to her and she still doesn't seem to care then end it. she obviously is using you for something....its up to you
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reader, FlyWoo-Man +, writes (19 September 2009):
 My guess is that she is playing hard to get. If you don't like it simply tell her that this relationship is not what you have been expecting. That you want to meet her half way instead of doing all the work. Communication is the best way to start a relationship, it doesn't mean that you're needy, or that she's lousy. I've had this happen a lot with my boyfriend but I tell him that I need affection or otherwise I will end up feeling like he's just my best friend and eventually separate. She'll understand that you need affection, and would probably warm up to the idea. Of course not everyone is the same but good luck. Hopefully my advice works.
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