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anonymous
writes:After over 3 years of break and make up with my wifes online infidelity and her denial,and again being convinced she was sorry,i now discover a web cam in a box. Am i being insecure and wrong by assuming the worst? I am not even asking her about it as she will either lie or accuse me of causing trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): You are insecure by not breaking away. You chose to stay with what you know and come on man,you know what a web cam is for,given the history you briefly mention. You would have known about it otherwise. You would have seen it set up. Any relatives abroad she contacts? Close friends you know she talks to? If not,then live with it only if you can accept it. Hopefully theres nothing floating around on the web to add to what must be embarrassing you enough as it is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): Does she have close relatives abroad? Do you ever see it set up? If not then why would she buy one? Writing here hoping to be told you may be wrong,is nothing more than an attempt to cast a shadow over what you really know. I know one thing,and is she isnt she? wont get you anywhere. You need to deal with it head on and its possible it means a permanent end to it. It is likely she will look for other ways once she knows you have found out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): I think you are asking the wrong question. You should be asking why you are still in this relationship. Being single is not the end of your life and there just may be another female who doesnt have the same type of habits as her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2010): If there is a lot of history in your relationship, which you seem to hint that there is, then you can't help but assume the worst.
Ask her anyway and if she accusses you of causing trouble tell her she's caused the trouble by feeling she needs to hide a webcam? I, like you, can only imagine one reason she would need to hide a webcam and it isn't innocently having a chat with friends or you would already know of its existance.
All anyone can do on here is take guesses. My advice would be to confront her calmly about it and tell her you'd prefer the truth now than later. You can always post here again for more advice.
I hope you can get to the bottom of things and work your relationship out, good luck.
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