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writes: We love each other we agreed to take things slow and refrain from making things official as of right now. I think this is a great idea considering our situation but here is where the problem lies. He told me that whenever we are not in contact he feels like I could be out doing anything and everything with other men and That he wont have the right to be mad but he's worried. I gave him a bit of personal information and that was enough to reassure him that I will not be doing anything at all.( 2 weeks ago)But ever since that night, I've been paranoid I find myself waking up in the middle of the night thinking about him or worried. I feel like we should be in contact all the time or else I get the feeling he's doing things with other girls. I don't want to seem so clingy and smothering because I'm really not.Why do I feel like this, and how can I stop it? I do not want to drive him away! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question We both decided we'd rather wait because we want to be sure this is what we want. we don't want to rush into anything.
He doesn't want me to be with other men sexually but even if I did, he wont be mad, he wouldn't have the right too...same with me.
But when you like each other its always going to bother you regardless if you're in a relationship.
But now the thought of him with other women is just overwhelming, like every time hes going out I think hes with someone, he wouldn't have a reason to hide it from me because we're not datin gbut I have a feeling he would .
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reader, YouWish +, writes (27 July 2013):
 The only reason people resist exclusivity is precisely because he wants to keep the options open. It surprises me that he's so concerned about your fidelity, yet won't become exclusive. If you two are now having sex, you are now one of two things:
Exclusive, or Friends with Benefits.
If you are FWB, then it's no strings attached, and both of you can see and sleep with anyone you want without question. He very well could be sleeping around and justifying it as not being official with you.
You're not being clingy, but it's a good bet you're being used. If you are in love with him, then you're in a very bad position.
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