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writes:Recently I hooked up with a guy who I would call a bit of a "lad" he's older than me (20) and is very confident ad doesn't stay with one girl very long if any time at all really!I was considering asking him out to the pub or somewhere as I quite like him, am I asking for disapointment here? Reply to this Question
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (17 April 2010):
 FYI, drinking age in UK is 18. Drinking age in USA is 21 - so you are underage for either of those countries.
Just because you have not been ID checked yet, does not mean you wont be in the future, and I think that is incredibly stupid and arrogant if you think you are above the law, just because you look "older". Bars, pubs and clubs are increasingly now asking for proof of age over 21 - not just 18 (the legal age to buy alcohol). This means they are completely covered by the law and cannot be prosecuted, or fined for selling alcohol to underage children (thats you). The government are really beginning to crack down on underage drinkers, due to the rise in liver problems and binge drinking caused by drunk teenagers who dont know when to stop.
I am also from the UK, and you really should take a look at the laws relating to alchol in this country. Because you seem to have a woeful lack of knowledge on the subject.
http://www.ias.org.uk/resources/factsheets/law.pdf
Have a look at this document, as it tells you everything you will ever need to know.
The key points relating to age and alchol:
1. It is an offence to allow children under sixteen onto premises unless accompanied by a person over eighteen. The offence depends upon the category of premises in
question:
a. premises exclusively or primarily for the sale of alcohol
b. premises where alcohol is available, but not primary or exclusive; it is an offence between the hours of midnight and 5 a.m.
2.It is an offence to sell or supply liqueur confectionery to a child under 16.
3. The individual under 18 also commits an offence if he buys or tries to buy alcohol, or is supplied with it in a club.
4. It is also an offence for another to try and buy, or have alcohol supplied to him, on behalf of a child. This is so whether it is for consumption off the premises (eg. shop or supermarket), or whether it is for consumption on the premises.
5. It is an offence for an individual under 18 to consume alcohol on relevant premises and for anyone who had the authority to stop him to allow him so to do. The exception where the consumption is to be on the premises, is where the child is aged between 16 and 17 and is accompanied by an adult and is having a table meal. In those circumstances, the only alcohol that they are allowed to consume is wine, beer or cider.
6. It is an offence for a responsible person on relevant premises to allow an individual under 18 to sell or supply (in a club) alcohol. There is an exception where the alcohol is supplied with a table meal, so that the under-18 can work as a waiter or waitress and deliver drinks to the table.
SO as you can see from these points. In order to BUY alcohol, or CONSUME alcohol when out at a pub or club you have to be 18.
This is the law. Up to you if you choose to break it.
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reader, Polaroid93 +, writes (17 April 2010):
Polaroid93 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't need ID and never have seem as I look older and I'm from the UK not the USA so the ages are different over here.
Thanks for the advice
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reader, alyssadiane21  +, writes (16 April 2010):
 yeah if you really think about it he never stays with one girl for to long. so there for your asking for dissapointment.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 April 2010):
You know he doesn't stay with one woman for a long time, if at all. That means he uses women. Which means you're heading straight for hurt if you try to have anything else to do with him.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (16 April 2010):
If you actually want a meaningful relationship, and a proper boyfriend, stay well away from him.
You would only be disapointed if you wanted more than a one night stand from him. If you are happy to share him with countless other girls, then I am sure he would be very obliging.
If he is a bit of a lad, and doesnt stay with one girl for very long, its safe to say he is a player and is only looking for sex.
Just also remember, if you did invite him to the pub, you probably would be ID checked, (buying Alchohol is ILLEGAL under the age of 18), so would you be prepared to look a bit silly in front of him?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (16 April 2010):
 Okay, I'm going to say this once: You are a MINOR, and he is an ADULT. You shouldn't even talk to him until you are 18. Otherwise, you are jailbait, and it's considered Statutory Rape for him to have a sexual relationship with you.
But let's pretend you're 18 for a second here. You *know* he is a player. You can't and won't change that, especially if he's only 20 and is sowing his wild oats all over the place. Don't be attracted to "bad boys". Go for the nice ones - you may consider them slightly boring, but you won't get used and abused that way.
And for god sakes - YOU'RE TOO YOUNG!!
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