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anonymous
writes:I hooked up with someone via tinder. Met twice; sex once. Both agreed to continue no strings. Both like each other. Think I like him more. I don't want this to be a short term sex thing more long term friends where he continues to see me as a friend/ allie/companion. My question is that he never texts first. When I text he replies right away. Short replies though. About 2-3 texts a day not much. I wish him Night every night. Sometimes I get a reply sometimes not. Should I continue like that or does it look too eager and sometimes I should not text and wait for him to text first?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2015): Hello there. I am going to echo what the other aunts are saying.you are becoming emotionally involved here, and he has been honest and fair in regards to what he wanted and intends.you say you would like him to consider you a friend/companion etc in the future, yet talk of liking him in regards to wanting a relationship. I think you want him to value you and see you more than either of you signed up to.If you want to try and see if he contacts you first, give it a go, but be prepared that he won't or that he will contact you when he wants sex because that's the arrangement you guys have.When I was dating a year back, I had a great time with nothing serious going on at all. Lots of lovely evenings out, lots of texts from various peopleall day long! I never iinitiated contact as I didn't have to, they were bits of fun and we all knew it. Until I committed to someone then it all stopped of course. Even now I get the odd text from one of the guys back know then, chancing his arm - nothing else kicking around or he's just split from a girlfriend is my guess- whatever the reason I close him down relaying I'm in a relationship now....you get the difference here hun? What you have is in his eyes fun, in your head you are turning it into something that will leave you with your feelings hurt.date others and have a bit of fun, or look for someone special...not on tinder! X
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (17 August 2015):
 I'd stop trying to build this relationship; you've demonstrated to him that you like him and have given him plenty of time to start to initiate contact with you. He hasn't taken the initiative at this point, perhaps he needs some space to do it or perhaps he's just not into you.
Stop texting him first. Let him see that you are busy with your friends and do not expect more from him that you have right now.
You're in your late 30s? What do you want from life? From a relationship?
If you want a boyfriend, this man is not a good candidate.
If you want a boyfriend, tinder is not a god bet.
If you want a boyfriend, tell your friends and family and ask to be introduced to men who would be great candidates for you.
Tinder is more than likely NOT going to be your matchmaker, so consider alternatives. :)
Good luck!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 August 2015):
 I think you got exactly what you "bargained" for. Tinder is "hook up" site NOT a dating site.
You two did "hook up" and he is off to the next girl (I would be surprised).
He wasn't looking for GF, but someone to casually have sex with.
If you are looking for a BFR, HE isn't it. I would stop texting, see what happens. Either he will "booty-call" you or he will not contact you what so ever.
Either way, I'd move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2015): You're trying to attach strings to someone who made it clear they don't want strings. You need to tell him upfront, see if he's interested in more and let him go if he isn't.
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