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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:My partner and I have a huge fight. It is the third time we fight this way. It happened because of a simple misunderstanding.She dropped me offline messages in instant messenger. That day, I login to see if she left me any message then I logout due to unexpected family shopping. I text her to let her know because she might be waiting as we talk every night at that hour.The next day, she accused me staying invisible. She said she login to my account and see no offline message from her.I explained to her whats happening. She doesn't accept the explanation and brings up past fight. The previous fight, I am responsible for it but we had talked about that I thought when we are back together, she forgive me for real.It is not about cheating or other girls, it is just I done something wrongly but I have good intention. Basically, I am trying to give her surprises.I always be the one pamper her. I don't care who's fault, it is just my way to spoil her because I am in love with her.She totally distance herself. Not picking phone, text etc. I moved on because it won't work if she no longer want me. The third day, she finally text me. In her text, she called me honey. But in her email to me, she is still verbally abusing me. I got the idea she might accidentally sent that text to me.Later that day, she showed up online. It is a great talk at first then she continued the fight. She said we are over. She also add in I don't trust her enough. Well, I do worry she might get other guy because I care about her. I thought when I don't feel the assurance she will assure me just like what I do for her.The fourth day, I text her saying I need to talk to her. In my mind, I want to clear things up once and for all. As usual, she isn't picking up the phone and text.I called her again, like trice in a row, she doesn't pick up but showed up online. I talked to her but she isn't responding. So, I don't think going to her house is a good idea.I don't know what's up with her. If she doesn't want to talk me, she would have add me to the ignore list so I won't be able to see her online. And why she need to online when I called, the worst she doesn't respond at all.Do you think I am a terrible bf? What should I do now? Or she is just being manipulative?Sorry for the long essay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): Thank you for the replies.
I will wait some time to see if there is turning point. Else, it is time to take a break on relationship. I am tired going through the heartache again and again.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (19 September 2008):
I don't think you are terrible, I think she has problems.
If she is willing to dump you over something so incredibly small then she did not want to be in the relationship.
Move on and find a more emotionally stable person.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, littlesuziepie +, writes (19 September 2008):
 Sounds to me like she is being manipulative. That's just what I think when I read your question. Two adults should give each other respect enough to listen to what the other person has to say. If she won't speak with you then she is being difficult for no reson.
I think if you are truthful and she still won't be nice to you then you are wasting your time on her.
Find someone that will be loving and caring and respect you and listen to you.
I wish you luck.
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