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writes: Okay so people keep calling me these names and I'm just sick of it. I'm 17 and I'm gay. The think is I get turned on very easily and am very friendly and flirtatious. So I tend to flirt with a lot of guys... and some girls too. And even when not trying it seems as if I'm going after someone. Does that make me a man whore...? Cause that's what people seem to be calling me now a days. I'm it's not like I'm going around kissing people's boyfriends..or having sex with any guy I see. I don't get it...I'm a virgin. It just kinda hurts when people kind of shun me or talk behind my back. And what's even worse is that it's not even the girls saying these things..it's the guys..and some of them my friends.. well at least i thought they were. I don't know what to do... just like walk around like a robot and not be myself? not show any emotion..? I don't know... cause the way I am is just me. And i cant change that. Does that make me a whore..?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2010): I agree with Miamine. And another thing- just because you are homosexual doesn't mean you get a free get-away card that lets you act overtly sexual and flirty with everybody. That's a stereotype for a reason, and all the gay people I know hate other gay men who act like that and will also call them manwhores.
People don't know what you do behind closed doors- they just see you being sexual right infront of them. What else do they have to run off of?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 June 2010):
 Nah, you've gotta be yourself! Too many people out there have hangups that cause them to be terrified about what other people think. You see it in the similar way that people dress, in the inhibitions that exist without the presence of alcohol, and mostly in the way people treat other people in the affairs of attraction.
So many people come on here asking how they find out whether or not other people like them, or how they can let a certain other person know they like them. You are direct! You'll just walk up and let them know! Don't ever change that, because people are comfortable around such emotional honesty. Sometimes, they're comfortable enough to call you names like "man-whore" which may or may not be meant kindly. Just show poise and smile at them. Many of them secretly admire you.
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reader, heaven= +, writes (1 June 2010):
you are not a man whore!!!!
the thing is your a flirt,maybe even a natural flirt,like me im BISEXUAL and my friends and so on even tell me that im not a hore im just a flirt you cant stop it,it just happens ibet you dont even notice when your flirting you shouldnt have to be a robot,like me ifound my friends and they tell me when im doing it so no,you are not a man whore your just a NATURAL FLIRTER 8)
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 You cannot control people's thoughts and how they think of you . If many of them have this kind of perceptions of you ,then probably you are acting like one.
You need to conform to the norms in your society or you will be branded as such.
If you want others to change their perspective of you,then you need to change your behaviours and attitudes.
If you say this is the way you are,then just ignore them and do whatever you like and be happy.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 You are flirtatious to men and to women.. you make yourself look sexually available to everyone. People dont know you, they only know what you present. You present a person who is sexually available to any and everyone, so that's what they think you are.
If you want them to think differently, then change your behaviour and stop flirting. If you don't care what they think, and know who you are and what you are, then ignore the bad comments, continue enjoying yourself and tell the world and their opinions to go to hell.
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