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anonymous
writes:My partner and I have been together for years now but it's always me that puts in effort, including a normal conversation. I get excited to see him after we both work and to share our days with each other but it's always me to ask how was your day? What did you do? Normal questions and that's that, he doesn't ask me anything so I just talk about my day and his replies are always blunt and short. It's frustrating because no matter what it's always me been trying with our relationship, trying everything I can to make it how it once was. I am not a bad girlfriend, I love him but because I haven't been receiving the attention I want and need from my partner I am just talking to guys to communicate with mainly. To have someone to talk to is what I miss the most from my partner and I won't lie, I enjoy it but I feel so slack for just having a normal day conversation with other guys on social media.I don't know if there is a problem with me ? Am I a bad person to feel the need to talk to other men ? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (3 March 2015):
 No you are not bad but you are filling a hole that will never be filled.
You need to either leave the guy that won't talk (since that's who he is and you want him to be something he is not)
or you need to accept that is who he is and stop filling the hole with someone else.
DO you tell your partner you do this? IF not it's a secret and that's a lie IMO. would you say something to him if he asked or would you continue to keep it from him?
In my book, ANYTHING you do not, will not or cannot tell your partner is cheating on him.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (1 March 2015):
No your not a bad person at all,but i feel a lonely and confused one.No need to talk to other men just sit down and have an indept chat with your boyfriend telling him how you feeland that a relationship is a Two-Way situation and that both people need to work at it to make it work.If after this chat and he continues to put no effort into it there is no point to stay with him.Find someone who will love you and has the art of conservation.Kind wishes NORA B.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (28 February 2015):
 Well, I wouldn't call you a "bad person" but I think you are skirting the issue.
You need to be BLUNT with your BF. You need to TELL him he is NOT fulfilling your needs. He isn't a mind-reader.
HIM not fulfilling your needs is NO excuse to chat up strangers/other guys on social media. Because if ALL you want is conversation and chat, you can talk to females, right?
Talk to him, see if the two of you can't fix this together, if you can't well, then your option might be to leave and find someone who CAN fulfill your needs.
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