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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I really don't know how I've gone this long without getting into a relationship - but I want to move forward by putting myself out there more. I try to educate myself on how to maintain a healthy relationship, but there'es only so much you can learn from reading books and articles.I guess my questions are - how important is dating or relationship experience when choosing a partner? Does someone need to have relationship experience for you to consider them a viable partner? How do you view inexperience or someone with little relationship history? Does your perception of their relationship history depend on age? Do you view someone much differently if they have much less experience than you do? How do I tell that I'm basically starting from square one at 28 years old? I'm hoping to meet women somewhere around my age range. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 February 2015):
 I think looking for someone with the same values is a good starting point. Someone with the same amount of "relationship experience?" no.
Don't presume that because you haven't DONE something before that you won't be able to be good at it. It might mean you need to learn as you go. And EACH relationship is different. So you learn something new each time, about yourself and relationships.
We ALL have to start somewhere. There is nothing wrong in saying, I haven't dated much because I just haven't MET the right girl. Or I have been more focused on school/work.
It's about adaptability. Can you adapt to new situations? Can you work WITH another person to make a relationship a success? Well, if you don't know then GO try. Start by getting to KNOW some women, see if someone peaks your interest. Baby steps. But sitting at home reading about it isn't going to give you experience.
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