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writes:Ive recently started a new relationship 2 months, we're very close and he already says he's falling for me. Anyway cutting to the chase, the other night we were getting close, intimate and eventually to a point of almost ripping into each other. What concerns me is that although he was sounding very excited he didn't have an erection. Is it me, that isn't normal is it? Its something I haven't come across before and don't know what to make of it...Any ideas?
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reader, chantel11  +, writes (6 March 2009):
my husband and i are deal for over 3 years i and he don't have erection some time i don't even think if there's is any of his sperm left he's is 50yr
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): It happens to me every 'first time'. After that, everything always works great. It is definitely psychological, performance anxiety, perhaps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2009): No, stop thinking it was YOU! Thinking that negatively, will cause any poor guy to have erection problems..what a turn off. So don't do that. How old is he? Some guys in the 40-50 plus age group can get excited, and get very stimulated (horny)...but have erection problems. It's called ED( erectile dysfunction) There are soo many causes of erectile dysfunction, dear. Hormone levels, health reasons, psychological reasons such as:
Nervousness....if he was feeling nervous about sex with you, (wanting to impress, a bad past sexual experience or a previous episode of impotence) it's quite likely he was worried he wouldn't 'perform'...and he didn't. Poor guy!
Maybe don't rush this 'sex' thing. Take your time and discuss it with him. Find out what he thinks is the trouble and be understanding, patient and caring. This probably is very frustrating for him. If you are intimate again and he fails to get an erection, suggest a good medical check up for him but be supportive. And remember there is a marvelous little pill out there that men can use, with ED trouble..it's called viagara. You may have to consider that. However, if he's a wonderful, good, caring man, you have a gem, there. With time, patience and your support, his erection problem will work itself out, over time.
Good luck, dear
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